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Why make a Lemmy post about this and not just a GitHub issue?

What I mean with "you're not the only one" is that you'll be (probably easily) able to find people that are good for you. Didn't mean to put light on the fact it's a societal issue; might be, might not be, but it's irrelevant. Just meant to say that enough good people are out there.

If you're like what you say you are, "staying with people in the hopes they might change for the better", what I've noticed in my time on Earth is that "people like you" actually do find these problematic people specifically and spend their time with them. You want to improve the world and that means the people within them, and so you think your time is well spent like this.

However, this is unfortunately almost totally wrong. Instead of achieving your goal, the problematic people just mostly stay like they are, and because of that all that happens is that you become miserable because you don't see any improvement, and don't have any meaningful relationships.

If I may suggest an alternative, what I've found is that you actually have to find people that are already mostly good and have a proven track record of improving themselves. These are mostly good people. They have no big problems and no toxic behaviors. I assume you are such a person. So in other words, you have to find someone like you. If you do that, you can both improve together and help each other, instead of this one-sided thing you probably mostly had going on.

And yeah, like you said, "not setting yourself on fire to keep others warm", this means you have to stop spending time with the people that just drain you, even though it may sometimes be painful.

Anyway, hope you have a wonderful time, because this is actually all really fun once you prioritize your own happiness while dealing with others :D

See how many people here share your troubles? There's no shortage of people like you. The thing is, like you say, you have to stop putting up with people's bullshit. When you notice bullshit, confront them with it, and if there's no way of reconciliation, move on immediately, don't try to "put up" with anything. From what you said it seems like you hold on to toxic people too long.

Also, have you ever thought about that you might also have "BS" that other people would have to deal with when they want to create a deep connection with you? Do you think that's absolutely impossible?

It's just much more profitable for record labels to have a few superstars than thousands of mini-stars. A usual person won't follow and buy from 100 music artists. They'll buy from 1 to 10 or whatever. Having large fandoms allows you to sell more tertiary things like plush toys and shit like that, it wouldn't be feasible to do that for thousands of artists.

Large fandoms also make people feel like they belong, when there's a Swiftie fanclub in any small town with dozens of people there's a community, if only 1 person in a town were a fan of a specific artist, even if there's 1 in every town, the networking effect would just be basically nonexistent.

And in general there's just too many amazing musicians. People love making music and as such there's an oversupply. In addition to the above points that's just capitalist supply and demand in play.

Just don't use repacks like this, the original package is fine. Bandwidth is often free if you get a torrent, no need to save a few hundred MBs with ridiculously CPU intensive compression algorithms.

Well, it's not "growing" per se, but we produce fertilizers which are "plant food", so you could say we grow food for our food even for plants.

Die Sache ist dass die ersten zwei Dinge nur minimal in deiner Kontrolle sind, und die dritte komplett in deiner Kontrolle. Insofern ergibt diese Dinge zu vergleichen überhaupt keinen Sinn, das einzige was du machen kannst ist sagen "yay ich bin wunderbar"

Yes, thank you ♥

Neither sexism nor racism needs to be active hate towards someone. If you just absentmindedly select a white person for a job, you might not even be aware you did it nor do you need to hate the black applicant. Some biases are stealthily part of our psyche.

Eventually, yes. If everyone's needs are provided for, there is no requirement anymore to extract value from art, one can just make it and share it freely.

Copyright should be abolished.

Why is no one mentioning here that the business model shouldn't exist? If a copy can be made basically for free, there is no reason not to make it basically free. We should be providing everyone with the means to live regardless of their ability to sell stuff. If everyone was free to do whatever they please because their existence was provided for, people would still make media, because people love making things like that.

Of course that might mean that in the short term, while we don't do this, pirating might mean that some things stop existing. I'd be completely fine if all Hollywood movies and other shit disappeared overnight. Maybe then people would finally come to the understanding that our current model of doing things sucks.

It's not a problem though. If you as a pirate want the business model of selling copies to not exist anymore, everyone always pirating would achieve that and not be a problem.