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When something great happens in your life how do you celebrate?

Here are a few things I do:

  • buy a bouquet of flowers for my partner
  • go to a nice restaurant
  • bake or cook something special, esp. a sweet treat like cake, cookies, etc.
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[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 6 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I don't, but then again I'm suffering from dysthymia.

[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I had to look up dysthymia, but it sounds awful, I'm so sorry 🫂

I don't have PDD, but I do have a variety of mental health symptoms that overlap with the symptoms of PDD, and while I'm doing a lot better these days, I have previously suffered decades of depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation that I wouldn't want anyone else to go through. 😅

If not celebration, what are ways that you cope or find joy?

I remember through those times rewarding / tasty food became a bit like a lifeline. I do not know your depression, but my depression was very anhedonic, so as a baseline everything was less enjoyable.

So I had a lot of "craving" behavior, seeking easy and quick rewards because I couldn't motivate myself to do much else and nothing was enjoyable anyway.

Cooking for others became a major coping strategy, as cooking for others triggered my sense of responsibility, which helped with the depressive / motivation issues.

Basically I could leverage stress to animate my unwilling flesh (even though it was, you know, stressful and awful), and getting good enough at cooking then setup a reliable pattern of rewards.

Eventually I noticed if I ate at restaurants too much or outsourced my cooking to something like prepared or frozen meals to save time, I became much more miserable and sank more into my depression - honestly cooking kept me alive in multiple senses.

Anyway, I wonder if you have something like that, not necessarily celebratory - but like a spring bubbling up from the ground that sustains you.

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Short answer: I drum a lot in my session room.

But joy? That word is weird to me. I just do music nonstop these days and I hope I don't happily walk in front of a train. That's basically it.

I find a little "joy" whenever I listen to certain music, or I'm playing certain music.

That's it. Sorry my response isn't a lot more happy than you hoped for.

[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al 1 points 23 hours ago

lol, I borderline worry I shouldn't talk to you because I think we have some similar afflictions and perspectives, and usually I steer things right into "yeah, why even be alive" territory ... that's not gone so well with some other folks so I try to be more ethical and aware about that potential now.

so yeaah, didn't expect happy - but I might have been trying to steer myself away from the dark places I typically would have gone, and it seems you got what I meant - the things that keep you alive. 😅

Music can be great, I taught myself the electric bass a couple years ago - that can be fun 😁