I can confirm that normies do not, nay, CANnot understand this. It doesn’t compute for them. Because I have tried explaining, in depth, with metaphors (“you know how feel about cleaning the cat’s litter box? That’s how we feel about virtually every necessary life task!”). Nothing works.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 56 points 2 days ago (9 children)

cleaning the litterbox is actually less unpleasant:

doesn't have to happen at a specific time
if I fuck it up, it doesn't spill over into other tasks
it's an act of service towards someone else and thus easier to motivate me than something that's for myself

[–] kieron115@startrek.website 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

^^^^^^^ i've tried explaining to my therapist that having an external source of motivation just makes things intrinsically easier and her only response is basically "well you just need to figure out how to be that external source" and i'm like =| thanks for curing ADHD lady. just gotta THINK about it harder.

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 day ago

I tell the people I work and worked for that I need external motivation and it's worked out pretty well. Home life, my wife can sometimes be enough to motivate me. Not because she asks, but I want the house to be nice for her. If I lived alone it would be a mess.

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