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[–] xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

you don’t need to be neurodivergent to appreciate the dark….
for example, you could be one of those mole people with no pigment (i.e. northern white peoples)….

[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 4 points 15 hours ago

Old school photographer

[–] Abnorc@lemm.ee 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

You could also be a radiologist.

[–] xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 15 hours ago

thanks… you’re right! i’m going to go to school for radiology!

[–] HugeNerd@lemmy.ca 3 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

No pigment? They're transparent?

[–] Opisek@lemmy.world 2 points 16 hours ago

Think about it. Have you ever seen one in person?

[–] xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 15 hours ago

i was speaking in hyperbole, but, lack of pigment doesn’t make you transparent.
see also: albinos.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 18 points 21 hours ago

Ooooh story time…

I worked for a small company in 2017/2018 that had recently expanded its building and added offices into their second floor, which had previously been a storage area. The second floor offices didn’t have any windows, but is also the spot that they decided IT would go.

One day I came in and the fluorescent lights didn’t turn on. There happened to be some random old lamp (I think from the 60’s or 70’s) in a storage closet so I grabbed it and put it on the intersection of 4 cubicles to light the area. There were only 6 IT people that worked in the area and as people were coming into work, no one mentioned the light. We all just did our work.

Halfway though the day, one of our senior devs asked “hey, so what’s with the light?”

I let him know the overhead lights didn’t come on when I got here this morning so I just grabbed a lamp.

5 of us discussing the lighting situation all vocally said “yea, this is much better, the fluorescent lights suck.” One person was quiet.

The overhead lights were “fixed” not too long after but people started opting for turning them off in favor of the lamp. This upset 1 of the 6 IT people working in the area.

It eventually became an HR issue, and the one person won; to the detriment of the other 5.

I ended up quitting about 2 weeks after that, not from the light issue; but I let them believe it was a large contributing factor in the exit interview.

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[–] TheGingerNut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 17 hours ago
[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 23 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I like to sit in my desolate room. No lights. No music. Just anger.

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 12 points 1 day ago

I had to spend six months in the ICU and I always had the lights off and no sound, not tv or music, no talking, all the staff would comment on it or ask if I wanted them to turn things on for the first few months but by the end they were always telling me how my room was so peaceful and they actually preferred it to other patients rooms. I just want peace!!

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

You've killed everyone.
You're away forever, but you're feeling better?

How do you feel, what do you say? In the end it all goes away

[–] SlippiHUD@lemmy.world 52 points 1 day ago (6 children)

90% of the time, the explanation is "I was doing a thing that didnt require external light source and didnt notice the sun went down."

[–] stebo02@sopuli.xyz 19 points 1 day ago

yeah but even if i did notice the sun went down i prefer to stay in the dark as long as it's not necessary to have light

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[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This is one of my great sensitivities. I can't drive without sunglasses. My eyes will tear up and I'm unable to keep them open.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 3 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I’m with you. Do you get it at the movies too? IMAX is too much but if I go to a smaller screen theatre I’m usually ok.

[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 3 points 21 hours ago

No not in theaters unless it's a really bright scene like an explosion.

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 7 points 1 day ago

Going outside to let my dogs out in the AM is genuinely painful! The dark to light is SHOCKING mentally and physically, I used polarized glasses for driving for the same reason you do. I find certain kinds of lights to be agitating even not just uncomfortable or painful

[–] DarthObi@feddit.org 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Everytime I read something about neurodivergent behavior I am astonished that another atypical thing I do is actually typical behaviour just not for neurotypical persons. (sry for my English - not a native speaker)

Your English is good, don't worry! In fact I quite like the way you worded that. Isn't it comforting to realize you're not as alone as you had thought you were?

[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 107 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Coworkers like 75% spectrum. Office is DARK

When we have meetings, boss comes in and opens the blinds. We scurry around like roaches

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 60 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We used to keep the light off in the tech bullpen. There were no windows but enough lights from the screens to keep people from tripping over themselves walking to their desks. Fucking director level POS hated it. When he didn't have anything to do he'd come back there and loudly exclaim "I don't see how y'all can work in the dark!"

It's almost like different people work different ways and have different levels of comfort. I can deal with either just fine but damn, don't just loudly pronounce shit and change the environment immediately. That absolutely stops pretty much everyone from working because they want to bitch about how it's different now.

I think it was 50/50 not giving a shit about the comfort of others and wanting attention because he was as useless as a bag of used microplastics.

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 25 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Lol people see me in the dark with a laptop and backlit keyboard and are like "how can you see / read in the dark?

Like wtf it's backlit. IDC what's happening in this - until recently - otherwise uninhabited room.

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[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I used to work in an IT call center like that. It wasn't even dark it was just dim because no one wanted the light over their desk turned on. There was enough light from the kitchenette area and the walkways to easily see. We got a new manager that hated that we all wanted the lights off so she used like 3 people who complained about it (and were in a corner of the room with the lights on so... stfu) as a pretext to do a poll to keep the rest of the lights turned on. She came back saying there was "a lot of" support for turning the lights on so now it was required but refused to release the results. Immediately lost all respect from the room. She would have eventually anyway because she was a shit manager but that was like right out of the gate.

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

She showed her true colours immediately. Didn't care about the people in the team.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 22 points 1 day ago

We did that as interns. Our official response was the light was causing interference with the testing and needed to be off.

[–] Hikuro93@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Hum... Yeah... That'd be me. The creature of the night. Not rave n' disco night... More like, night night. Even during the day.

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 59 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Doesn't matter if they're neurodivergent at all, it's rude to flashbang anyone like that

[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 19 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Tell that to any phone with the fingerprint reader behind the screen.

Apparently thumbs can now only be scanned by harnessing the power of the fucking sun.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Another reason why my previous phone was better than my current one: backside fingerprint scanner. Infinitely superior to a screenside fingerprint scanner, as I was able to unlock my phone in the same motion as picking it up or removing it from my pocket. With a screenside fingerprint scanner, it is no longer more convenient than just inputting the lock code.

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[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 63 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Can you imagine if we just started making snarky comments and turning off lights that people purposely put on? Wow, that'd be so rude! Right? Right??

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 40 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Why are you standing in a brightly lit room, do you need to be seen or something?

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[–] vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Somewhat related but does anyone else like driving in the dark? Like no other cars back roads in the middle of nowhere, the only light is from my instruments, radio, and headlights? Fucken peak especially out in the truly middle of nowhere with minimal light pollution with the cosmos visible.

[–] BigPotato@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (3 children)

The Prius (and more historically Saab) used to have a near blackout mode which shut off interior lights and dash indicators, basically only leaving the indicator that shows your headlights are on. It was wonderful to drive with the blackout mode and just have your eyes perfectly adjusted to the light outside the cabin.

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Then you pull aside, roll down the window, and hear nothing but the buzzing and chirping of whatever nature's out there. It's just... zen.

I've always lived in pretty densely-populated areas, but a few years back I got to drive around eastern Arizona for a few hours at night. It was so dark and so empty, I felt like I was flying through space. I could've gone into a trance, had I not been somewhere unfamiliar (I had to keep some focus in this unfamiliar area with spotty cell reception, where I was alone, at night.)

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[–] WanderingThoughts@europe.pub 43 points 1 day ago (3 children)

"I rule from the shadows" is my usual response.

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[–] Aksamit@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 day ago

I find myself wearing my sunnies indoors more often than not. On days I forget and grab my regular glasses, switching over to the tinted lenses is literal full body relief as the light input is reduced.

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 15 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yeah, why tf do people need to turn on my lights?

I'm not Vashta Nerada (I wish tho).

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 44 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Also, we sometimes like the dark.

Would you like it if you were in a room with a comfortable lighting level and changed the lighting level to suit ourselves without saying anything first?

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[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 43 points 2 days ago

“Why don’t you ever come out of your room?” flashbacks, lol

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