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Weekly natter thread 19th May (lazysoci.al)

submitted 5 days ago by LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

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[–] mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm posting here to vent a bit so thanks for listening. Earlier this week I wrote in another thread that I was looking forward to a two week vacation at my partner's place. We're in a long distance relationship so I don't see him very often.

Well while I was driving there, my car just stopped working on the hightway. I waited 3 hours for the car to get towed and I was only an hour into the drive. Luckily my parents were so kind to pick me up but now I'm no closer to him than I was this morning. I'm so frustrated about this and I will miss out on at least a whole weekend with him.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Oh noooooooo! That's really frustrating. You've been looking forward to this and you don't see him enough. Today of all days your car decides to break down and you had to sit and wait for hours. You miss the weekend and there's the risk you'll lose more. It's gutting. How are you feeling now?

[–] mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

At the moment I feel just sad. I should have woken up next to him this morning

At least my cat is here to keep me company

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I get that mate. We're here

[–] mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 14 hours ago

Thank you for listening

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What does natter mean?

I'm having a hard time right now. I've put myself in time out, and I don't know where to reach to. I feel so frustrated, cornered and stuck. I'm completely out of control of having the space, time, energy to be my own person.

I was traumatized in my early years, through my teen years, and thank to getting caught up in a dv relationship, again in my 20s.

I've a son who has ADHD, ODD, and contuct disorder. You bet, child of the dv. I've done it own my own, we haven't seen my kids father since he was 14months old. Better off, happier, met my dear love 7 years ago. I have my little family and I love all of it. My son loves his stepdad, they bond over a love of baseball, and happy we are together us three.

Cept, see, oppositional defiance disorder, and contuct disorder are not entry level mental health conditions. The last six months have been brutal.

It's his 12 birthday today, his teacher called me, today, why today, with bad news of his behavior this week, and my brother, who I hardly talk to, is .. I think in a nice way, telling me all the awesome things he's doing as a single, with good employment, no kids guy. And ... I just deleted my last two paragraphs talking about the whys. I don't need to explain my truth bare now.

I just feel frustrated, cornered and stuck. My life choices led me here. Tryig my best my whole life and the world around me is so bleak.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 1 points 4 hours ago

Just saw this. I'm really glad you've reached out, you've got a lot going on and it's understandably effected you.

Trauma really gets into our bones and it's really long lasting. It's natural for you to have issues after so much pain going back the years. And of course it's sadly natural for your child to be effected. It's often a game trying to get support and it's a game that's hard to win.

Have you read Why does he do that? It's the best book on domestic abuse ever written and it can help us manage the whole situation. There's also When dad hurts mom about helping mother child recovery. Could help you make things less brutal especially as the system isn't helping you.

I know you feel frustrated, cornered and stuck and with everything that's gone on, it's not surprising. It's hard seeing the past and how we did wrong, and it sounds like you're feeling hopeless. How's the weekend been so far?

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Oh lord. I just fell asleep for 40 minutes and I'm really annoyed with myself

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

L.A. Times: Scott Adams is going to die!

Me:

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

But Dilbert is cool

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Maybe at the beginning. A lot of his alt-right-manosphere stuff started creeping (pun intended!) into Dilbert even before he went publicly Nazi.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 3 points 1 day ago

Oh nooooo that's bad