My zoomer friends are always sending me voice notes. Wtf is wrong with the youth. Text only please, ty.
this post was submitted on 14 Jun 2025
202 points (94.3% liked)
196
3602 readers
1526 users here now
Community Rules
You must post before you leave
Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).
Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.
Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.
Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".
Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.
Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.
Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.
Avoid AI generated content.
Avoid misinformation.
Avoid incomprehensible posts.
No threats or personal attacks.
No spam.
Moderator Guidelines
Moderator Guidelines
- Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
- Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
- When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
- Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
- Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
- Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
- Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
- Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
- Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
- Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
- Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
- Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
- First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
- Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
- No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
- Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
- Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.
founded 4 months ago
MODERATORS
For real. A voice note means I'll wait for half a day before I'll have a chance to listen without annoying someone, with a 50% chance of me accidentally clicking on the notification and forgetting it's there. It's the worst of both worlds: not as instant as a call and not as easy as text.
I could see the appeal of voice notes - still get to hear the person's voice at your leisure.
But I could be shopping, driving, masturbating, you could never know a good time to call and most things could just be text - especially if it has any information I dont think I could remember but might want to know later
It moves the burden into the receiver
Instead of having to type out a message, you can just blab
Now the receiver has the burden on having to actively listen to the message, maybe finding a situation where it's possible and take the time to listen to it in the speed of the sender instead of being able to read it quickly
As a former draftsman, the unnecessary kinks in those arrows makes my eye twitch.
TBH some people are terrible about responding to messages or emails (at least when they're messaging/emailing me). I do hate phone calls, but they do somewhat force people to pay attention until you actually finish talking about whatever topic is at hand - and if they don't, it's much more immediately obvious that they aren't interested.
Ok but messages and emails are so you can get to it when you have time.
An unscheduled call is demanding someone's time without asking. Its rude.
Yeah, but the issue is that some people don't use their (and my) time well. e.g. they outright stop responding for no apparent reason and weeks later pretend that nothing happened, or drag the conversation out by leaving out many of the important points of information in their replies, being unclear or misunderstanding what you wrote to them etc.
And calls don't need to be unscheduled.
At that point I guess just read the room.
I normally tend to err on the side of 'they're not interested' anyway, but sometimes this is from people who have known me for a long time and actually initiated the interaction. Make up your mind FFS!
This is me 100%
The preferring phone calls with some people, or the being terrible about responding?
Both
I call when I need something urgent: Medical Emergency, 2FA when I'm editing the family plan over the phone or in person, I'm in a crisis etc.
When its not urgent, I send a text. I'm a younger person and dont understand the thing around phone calls if its important.
Definitely needs an "are you my mom" branch.
Still ends in the same place though right?
So like I am trying to understand why we are this way. When we grew up, adults used home phones, and if we wanted to call our friends we'd have to talk to an adult on the other end before they'd let us, and adults in general are pretty scary, with stranger danger and everything. And anyway, you could just use AIM. So when cell phones came out we all texted.
But when Boomers and Gen X were growing up, they didn't have AIM so they had to adapt to the phone at a young age out of necessity, so they can deal with it better than we can.
Does that make sense?
Its simpler than that. Texting is asynchronous you always know the person will be able to respond without having to coordinate availability with you.
Its just a straight up more polite acknowledgement that the other person's time is valuable abd you dont have a right to it.
I mean, yeah? But also some people have the job to answer your call, like at doctor's offices. So it should not cause anxiety to call them, yet it does.
And sometimes having a conversation via voice (or even better, face to face) is faster than a text exchange, but still, we're not used to it.
Also if your number isn’t in my phone and I can’t find it with a google search and you don’t leave a message I’m gunna assume that it wasn’t important and never engage with it. It has the same energy as “call me” like, you’re the one that wants to talk, dude!
I live in another country from most of my friends and video calls frankly feel too much like a performance. A phone call is the highest emotional bandwidth way to catch up and feel close.
Even though we prefer calls, we still text ahead and make sure it's a good time.
i am a millenial. two of my gen x friends just call me for no reason sometimes. i don't understand why. i always think something is wrong and answer the phone in a panic to make sure they are okay.