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[–] Dragon_dick_99@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Nobody. Everytime I've reached out in the past has never worked out. Haven't gone outside in about 5 years. I go to therapy, but 1 hour a month isn't enough to even scratch the surface of what I'm dealing with let alone anything new that happened between visits. I feel like a burden to my girlfriend and family (dont even have much of that left anymore.) And I'm too far gone at this point to make friends. If they won't invite me to game night over steam, why would I think they'd let me trauma dump on them or cry on their shoulder? Even typing this comment feels like a pointless cry for attention.

"We live together, we act on, and react to, one another; but always and in all circumstances we are by ourselves. The martyrs go hand in hand into the arena; they are crucified alone. Embraced, the lovers desperately try to fuse their insulated ecstasies into a single self-transcendence; in vain. By its very nature every embodied spirit is doomed to suffer and enjoy in solitude. Sensations, feelings, insights, fancies—all these are private and, except through symbols and at second hand, incommunicable. We can pool information about experiences, but never the experiences themselves. From family to nation, every human group is a society of island universes."

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[–] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Same, dude, same.

[–] Skellybones@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You guys turn to people when things get rough?

I guess when things get tough I'll turn to my older brother for support, one hug and everything is alright. But before him I was alone

[–] sequential@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I've never done it -- but if I did reach out while at a breaking point, the priority would probably be friend -> sibling -> parent. Let's hope neither of us reach that point anytime soon, OP!

[–] sznio@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Thankfully, my answer isn't nobody.

I was completely alone until high school. I've got Asperger's so that didn't help things, but therapy and finally meeting sane people in high school got me to make friends. I'm ending college now and I'm still in touch with them. Got at least three people ready to listen to my rambling.

Now my biggest worry is losing them. I doubt I could rebuild that relationship with anyone else. We've been through everything.

[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 2 points 1 year ago

I have people but i don't see the point in talking to others about problems that are in my head. If it gets bad I usually get drunk and complain into the internet void then wake up and delete my account and make a new username and start fresh. The older I get the less I'm pushed towards breaking point.

[–] golamas1999@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

A few times I needed to leave home and get my mind cleared. Distance helped. I would go to my friends house for the night. I’m in Chicago Area and he was in Champaign.

He move to San Francisco so I went to my Grandmothers in Toronto for a week.

Other times I take the dog to do something.

That wasn’t sustainable so I started seeing a therapist if only just to vent and put an emotion on what I’m feeling. I have so much to vent that I make my therapist overwhelmed.

[–] MigratingtoLemmy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My mind gets burnt out from feeling that way and I start doing the bare minimum to put food in my belly. It usually goes uphill from there

[–] AbyssalChord@feddit.de 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Our minds work in mysterious ways, that’s for sure. I‘m thankful that I haven’t hit rock bottom for quite a while. It doesn’t hurt to know whom you can reach out to when you do though.

[–] MigratingtoLemmy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I have been that low a couple of times, and my current mentality has managed to get me out. It's astounding how close it is, somewhat like an unrefined version of self-help books which advise you to get up after getting to such a point.

Also the fact that I have no one to rely on might have made this a coping mechanism.

Cheers

[–] Ataraxia@lemmy.world -5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's not a thing right? Nobody wants to deal with your personal shit. Everyone has their own issues and don't need more. Just like everyone else, nobody. It's my shit to sort out.

[–] AbyssalChord@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago

We are social creatures and there's just so much you can handle on your own. I wonder what your point of view is about Friendship. What do you consider as a friend? What does make a friend? Genuinely curious.

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