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[โ€“] RonPaulyShore@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[โ€“] ComradePorkRoll@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 year ago (4 children)
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Texts me and makes plans instead of me being the one who has to.

A desire to learn.

[โ€“] CerealKiller01@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

I think the way people talk about themselves vs. the way they talk about others is very telling about their personality. Being positive and humble/making fun of oneself while being positive about others is a huge green flag.

[โ€“] roo@lemmy.one 14 points 1 year ago

They join banter in a comfortable way without using character assassination as an authority/persuasion grab.

[โ€“] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 13 points 1 year ago

Kindness and looking out for others even when they don't have to.

[โ€“] BearJCC@lemmy.sdf.org 13 points 1 year ago

They care about other people

They are self-aware, willing to change and learn, and have a rational, logical view of things. It's rare to meet people like that, but they are by far the best people. Someone's philosophy on life is probably the best descriptor of a person.

[โ€“] redprog@feddit.de 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Informs you about stuff proactively and you don't have to pull everything out of them yourself

[โ€“] pixxelkick@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (10 children)
  1. Their fingernails. It sounds weird, but you can tell a lot about a person by how maintained their nails are. If they have long gross unkept nails, it says a lot. Versus trimmed and clean nails.

  2. I always do dinner and a movie for Date 1. At dinner, how do they treat the staff? Are they kind, do they thank the worker for their help? Do they tip well? Do they take forever to pick an item off the menu? When I offer to pay, do they initially counter offer for them to pay or us split at least?

  3. I'd just ask them their thoughts on trans folks wanting to participate in the Olympics with their same gender. The way they react to a hardball question pretty quickly outs any red flags.

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[โ€“] raichu@hachyderm.io 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Italy and Bulgaria come to mind

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[โ€“] vivadanang@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Books. If you go to someone's house and they don't have books, don't fuck them. - John Waters

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[โ€“] kristina@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[โ€“] ramenshaman@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Interested in learning and willing to change their mind when presented with new information.

[โ€“] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't think I've stopped to think what the different flags for people are for me. It's just something I've instinctively known and haven't really thought about

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[โ€“] WindowsEnjoyer@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)
  • Atheist
  • Common sense of humor + loves memes/shitposting
  • Loves computers
  • Self confident
  • Good looking
  • Doing (cardio) sports
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[โ€“] MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Appreciates spiders and other crawlies.

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