Honestly, I always yank some yarn out of the ball before I knit some stitches so that there is no tension on the yarn at all, and then I manage all of the tension I want to add with my hand/fingers alone. But…I’m an English-style knitter. Though I also do that when using both hands for two-color stranded colorwork. So yeah, maybe don’t rely on it coming out of the skein or off of the ball smoothly; it’s yarn, it has a tendency to grip to itself and tangle.

Hopefully this comment helps because I have to admit, I’m not 100% sure what you mean. Either way, best of luck!

I knit continental. Usually I tend towards too much tension. Here's what I do to manage tension:

1. As others mentioned, only use your index finger to manage the tension on your stitch. I pass the yarn between my fingers to increase friction and hold it with the pinky. Then I can loosen my grip between stitches to pull more yarn. The tension on the stitch is managed by the index finger. If you feel the yarn is too slippy, you can wrap it around your pinky to further increase friction. I only tension the yarn with my index finger to the point that it doesn't have slack, maybe a little more. You don't have to pull it taught.
2. Where your stitches are on the needles when you stitch them also matters. The closer to the tip, the tighter they will be. I have to remind myself to leave enough yarn so I can pull the stitch off the needle from nearly 1cm back. It looks like a huge, sloppy stitch when pulling it off, but turns out fine afterwards.

@Emotional_Series7814

Try using different methods of working the yarn around your left hand. I have a "standard" method, but some yarns need more or less tension to run smoothly through your fingers, so I adapt.

Different material for needles, different types of needles maybe. I find it easier to knit evenly on circulars. Play around with needle size as well.

Another thing is your "inner tension". It's easier to knit evenly when you're relaxed.

Could you ask another knitter in person?