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[–] thefartographer@lemm.ee 269 points 2 months ago (34 children)

I went over to my sister's house recently to cook hamburgers. She told me not to cook hamburgers for my nephews because they won't eat them. Just to play it safe, I asked my nephews if they wanted me to cook them hamburgers. They said no, "hamburgers are gross."

After I finished cooking, I got everyone served their burgers, sat down, and then one of my nephews asked where his burger was. I told him that he said they're gross and didn't want one. He started crying and saying that he wanted a burger. So, to play it safe, I cooked up two burgers for both of my nephews and toasted the buns just like I did for everyone else.

Then they got upset that I ruined "the bread." I asked if they wanted it not toasted. They said yes.

I move their patties to untoasted buns. They pick at the crust of the bun and say that they don't like it and that hamburgers are disgusting.

So, I fixed them plates of their favorite foods.

At this point, their attention spans were fully expended and they pretty soon left to watch tv and play without eating much.

Come bedtime, they cried that they were hungry and needed some snacks. So they ate their snacks and went to bed feeling like this was a perfectly normal way to live their lives.

They were 5 and 3 at the time.

This is what Republicans are. Fucking toddlers who throw a tantrum when they don't get what they want and say that they don't want it when you give it to them.

[–] Lon3star@lemmy.world 61 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (24 children)

My kids are 9 and 7 and this is nearly every dinner time for us over the last few months, it's maddening

[–] gibmiser@lemmy.world 65 points 2 months ago (14 children)

Don't give in to terrorists. Male them eat plain white bread if they won't eat what they are served.

No jelly. No peanut butter. Nothing to make it better. Just plain white bread or your supper you were served.

[–] mortemtyrannis@lemmy.ml 17 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Caveat I don’t have kids.

Can’t kids just miss a meal if they don’t want to eat it? Not like a kid is going to die from one missed meal.

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 17 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Same here, I don't have kids .... but my best example of parenting were my own parents. Mom made homemade food just about every day when I was a kid. She made food and we had to eat .... had to eat it. There was no option, no opinion or alternative. Mom ran the dinner table like a dictatorship ... there was no say or opinion in the matter ... you were served a plate of food and you ate it.

I don't say that I fully agree with it because I remember bawling my eyes out a few times because I didn't like the meal. However, it did force me to appreciate a lot of different foods because I just didn't know any better back then. Plus I was always taking in plenty of nutrition. One example I always think of now is ... fresh pan fried fish. We are indigenous and mom always pan fried four or five large fresh trout or arctic char (big fish that were about two feet long!) for the family every Friday (because we were also good Christians). She made nothing but pan fried fish, several stacks of them and it was basically all you could eat.

Problem was ... as a dumb kid ... I didn't like fish, so I stayed away from it for several years and just nibbled on it once in a while. Mom would make me eat a whole piece and I would force myself.

Later on, when I was about 18, 19, 20 I started liking the fish but then mom stopped making it all. Now I crave that damned fish and I want to tell my damned kid self to eat that fish and eat as much of it as he can. Man I miss all that fish now. I wish had it again.

Now I go to fish places or order fish specials and none of them taste any good and all I can imagine is mom's platters and platters of fresh fried fish that my uncles caught that afternoon. I'm sorry mom :(

[–] shadow@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I mean ... Of your mom's still around... Maybe buy fish and like, ask to learn the recipe and cook it yourself? I'm not a mom, I'm a dad, but I cook a lot and if my kid wanted to learn what I do when cooking, that'd be cool.

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Sadly mom passed away about ten years ago. And I'm not ashamed to say I'm a pretty good cook, mom actually taught me a lot as I worked alongside her in a fastfood joint we ran for a few years. And yes I've cooked wild fish myself before, it's a huge job and it's also a rare event. I no longer live near my original home so I can't find, buy or even get the same wild fish. And mom made them in the most heavy batter cooked in pure lard. It's not exactly healthy to make. The thing I miss is the circumstance of it all ... I was young, I was kid, I could eat whatever I wanted no matter how unhealthy it was and mom made it a particular way with a particular pan in a very haphazard kitchen with an old propane stove. No matter how much I may try, I'll never be able to replicate one piece of fish, let alone an entire platter of the stuff. I know most of mom's recipes now, the easy ones at least .... but I'll never get those same fish I remembered as a kid.

[–] b3an@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Many of my own childhood mistakes, cause same cringe feelings. It’s how we grow and learn. We eventually reflect and grow too.

Clearly you loved your mom, and she loved you. It’s not about the fish. She might have said today: don’t be silly give me a hug 🥰 and have you cook for her!

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago

Melted my heart and made me tear up to hear that .... if mom were here I would have made her whatever she wanted.

Stay well my friend and I hope you and your family are happy, healthy, wealthy and wise .... and the spirits of those that have gone before are close to your heart.

[–] Pips@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 2 months ago

Assuming we're just talking about a kid being picky/fussy/cranky and there's not some broader abuse or medical issue at play, then healthwise, sure. But there's other factors at play. Kids need to eat to grow. You also want the kids to start embracing good habits and shying away from bad ones, which sometimes means doing things they don't want to at times they don't want to.

Kids also don't always fully understand the signals their bodies are sending their brains and can get confused. So they actually are hungry, but their lack of energy and confusion (and just general preferences) mean saying they don't want to eat. In a situation like that, having the kid skip a meal actually makes the problem worse. There's other reasons too, but you get the idea.

[–] meco03211@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

From a health perspective, it's fine barring any medical issues. You could, however, run into trouble if CPS or something like that caught wind without context. Years ago I read a news article where a dad got in major hot water regarding custody of his kids because of that. It wasn't the most amicable divorce and when the ex-wife found out, she used that to argue for more custody.

[–] Serinus@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

If there's a custody battle, maybe but CPS doesn't take kids lightly. They know that those kids tend to be screwed one way or another, and they're choosing the lesser evil. The family situation has to be pretty damn bad for foster care to be a consideration.

CPS isn't doing anything over one lost meal beyond investigating worse claims.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Sone of it depends on age. You want the little ones fed despite themselves.

The problem is when they’re not your kids, or aren’t used to having boundaries set. Then it becomes a huge drama. While we tried to elicit preferences, we only made one dinner and they could eat it or not eat it.

When my kids became teens, I just handed my kids the website for a meal kit service and told them to pick what they wanted to make us next week

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