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Why are we so concerned with impressing each other? (leminal.space)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by infinite_ass@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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"How impressed everybody is" is the basis of money, law, self-worth and our models of reality. But that's a pretty shabby basis if you ask me.

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[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Welcome to The Problem!

I believe our societal models are the reason. It's not just that all people are self-absorbed and greedy, it's that everything we have built for ourselves pushes us toward being just that, from start to finish.

We have slowly snubbed out true values, like a sense of justice (by this I mean fairness mostly, true Justice, not Electric Chair Jamboree), empathy, collaboration, soulfulness, all of the noble qualities of humanity, and have slowly replaced them with therapy shopping and a fixation with achievement in order to cover up that which is missing from within ourselves.

Then again, some are just... empty. Devoid of personal meaning, which is why they want to empty everyone around them in order to not be alone with that hole in their souls.

[–] infinite_ass@leminal.space 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Lemme see if I can put that in a succinct meme.

We have created a parallel reality. A consensual dream. And, when you live in a society, skill at navigating the consensual dream is more useful than skill at navigating reality.

[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

Exactly, it's like playing a video game. And no matter how immersive the game, reality always demands its cut.