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Why have you convinced yourself that you have nothing and that you need to be in a relationship to have something?
Joining with the other sex and reproduction is literally the main purpose of all living beings, regardless of their level of intelligence or levels of consciousness of creating things like society and religions. When you don't have that as your adulthood passes you feel like a failure, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
This reductive view doesn't help you and, indeed, probably hurts your chances of getting what you so desperately want.
Drop this focus on sex and, ironically, you'll have a better chance of having it. We can generally tell when a guy wants us only for orificial insertion; that's a bigger turn-off than almost anything.
As others have said (that you didn't bother to respond to) work on yourself before you start working on getting others. And in your case I would strongly recommend getting professional evaluation for possible clinical depression before it literally kills you.