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[–] _haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works 26 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (3 children)

People where I am from call everyone "you guys" - men, women, trans, doesn't matter, everyone is just "you guys" even when it's a woman addressing a group of women.

The literal meaning isn't gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.

As for "y'all" or "you all", I don't see how it could possibly be interpreted as offensive to any gender.

[–] tonyn@lemmy.ml 13 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

"You People" is the one to be avoided

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

"howdy fuckers" is the opposite as it sounds bad on paper but in practice it goes over well (except with middle aged moms)

[–] Revan343@lemmy.ca 5 points 10 hours ago

"G'day cunts" goes over either extremely well or extremely poorly, with no in-between

[–] _haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works 1 points 14 hours ago

Yeah I don't see that one going over well anywhere

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works -3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

The literal meaning isn’t gender neutral, but in actual practice, it 100% is.

Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he's slept with, it isn't gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

[–] Grenfur@lemmy.one 7 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I don't see the issue with using the term "guys" in the plural when referring to a group regardless of sex. That would align with the definition of the word. I'm pretty sure that's how they meant it.

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works -1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

E: the fact that neither of you give a shit about the people telling you the term isn't gender neutral, doesn't apply to us, and that we don't feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us says it all. No matter how much mental gymnastics you do to convince yourself otherwise you are the ones choosing to be the problem instead of actually listening to others and showing some basic respect. It's an easy fix, too - all you have to do is give a minimal fuck about others.

[–] ipkpjersi@lemmy.ml 1 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

As for “y’all” or “you all”, I don’t see how it could possibly be interpreted as offensive to any gender.

I think "we don't take kindly to y'all" to a trans person would likely be offensive. Beyond that though, you're probably okay.

[–] slacktoid@lemmy.ml 4 points 13 hours ago

I mean ... Thats just an all out threat with y'all acting as an exclusionary statement.

All in all agree with your point tho.