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And who is to sacrifice years of their lives to raise those kids?
Me literally right now it's awesome.
I'm glad you like it :)
Ordinary, well-adjusted people.
Ordinary well-adjusted people with wealth and belief that the world that you bring your children into isn't a doomed from the start. A lot of 'well-adjusted' people can't afford to have kids, or they don't believe that their kids will have anything to aspire to. I don't want to be rude, and correct me if I'm wrong, but this comes of as any old Dick or Harry should have kids. For a lot of people in the west kids are simply out of the question if you plan to keep your current quality of life. Which is to say nice job! An actually unpopular opinion!
Do you believe everyone who doesn't want kids isn't well adjusted?
Sitcoms sold people a bleak view of parenthood.
"sacrifice years of their lives to raise those kids" is an accurate description, and sitcoms had nothing to do with it.
I found it's something that enriches you and provides a strong sense of purpose and so from my viewpoint it's nowhere near an accurate description.
Nah, that was my childhood.
Also, this is the exact attitude a lot of us have an issue with. If you want to be a parent then that's great! I fully support you in that decision and will do everything I can to help. So why can't you support my individual decision to not have children?
My observation you're responding to is neutral as regards providing support. I didn't know that a) you need support, b) that you were looking here nor c) that a sentence with what amounts to a shower thought can so efficiently deprive you of some. I certainly support everyone's decision to not have children while reserving the right to say they're a great source of happiness and meaning in my life.