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[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world -2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Play team videogames.

Doesn't matter if you suck, pick any and get a mic. Dont play to win, play to be helpful to your team.

There's gonna be some toxicity, but there's a very good chance that even with minimal communication back your brain is going to recognize that you are working with other humans to accomplish a goal.

Brains are dumb, trick it into thinking you're out hunting a mastodon with tribe while you're just chilling on the couch and it'll calm down.

Plus videogames are pretty fun. And the kids on there could use good role models, just be a decent human.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I understand why you're making this suggestion and appreciate the sentiment. Unfortunately I don't register online interactions as full social interactions like some other people. It's why I found social media platforms based on real world identities obtuse and vapid. I really need a place I can goto that doesn't cost money, people know who I am, those people are happy I'm around, I'm happy they're around, and I'm comfortable there. Unfortunately what I described is "a place I belong to" and I'm not going to get that in America.

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You still might be able to.

DnD is basically free and always desperate for players and have game meetups in all types of places

If you're less nerdy and more active then you're right at the cusp of 40+ rec leagues. Aka "beer league" sports.

Hell, I have a buddy that joined a bowling team despite not knowing how to bowl and immediately went to a tourney in Vegas.

But you just said this:

the most prosperous I’ve ever been in my life

Right before:

place I can goto that doesn’t cost money

So I'm a little confused why you can't spare any money to fufil a basic human need that you're saying is unfulfilled and causing you issues.

Best of luck though, and I do legitimately wish I could have been more helpful

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It's not about a lack of funds per se. I find spending money undermines any legitimacy for an activity, "best things in life are free". Might be the same reason I don't like amusement parks. This might be a psychological hold over from years living in poverty.

[–] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 2 points 21 hours ago

Find a hiking group or partner then. It's free, you'll get a little exercise, and it doesn't have to be much of a commitment.

[–] Fades@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

ANY amount of money undermines ANY legitimacy of ANY activity? That is just absurd, even aside from being an absolute statement.

Get the fuck out of here lol, just say you don’t want to try and would rather the solution simply fall into your lap for free so we can avoid wasting time responding to you

Money doesn’t make an activity good but it also doesn’t make the activity inherently bad or not worth it. There are an insane amount of things that have some cost associated, they’re all illegitimate options for an activity?

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The sentiment is absurd and we live in an absurd world. Conformity is not mortality, just because something is foundational to civilization doesn't make it benign. This isn't a philosophy or a statement of fact just my personal feelings. I find money to be crass and dirty. Money seems to be caustic to the human experience and humanity existed hundreds of thousands of years before we invited it (thus not intrinsic to our nature). It's an invention that instead of serving humanity has instead enthralled countless of our ape like brains.

If you're able to purchase a good or acquire a service that makes you happy without these thoughts invading your decision then I'm jealous. That's an ability I lost a long time ago.

[–] phughes@lemmy.ca 0 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

My dude. Things cost money. That's a basic fact of life. A rec league needs to rent space to play in. You need gear to play. If those facts taint the activity for you I'm not sure how you can even handle the horrific crassness of paying for a place to live. You should probably live in a hovel the woods. One that you didn't pay for.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

You enjoy paying rent? I pay a mortgage, that's not an entertaining activity.