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[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

100% mate.

All my best friendships have been 99% ripping into each other and telling funny stories. Like I don't tell shitty stories about work because I lived it once and I don't want to live it again. No one else does either. Unless it's to vent about someone because I'm angry. But I do tell funny stories about work.

Having said that even in the most masculine environments when anyone has had an issue or been pushed too fair the guys always rally and pick them back up.

Day to day shit is your own problem. The once in a month or few months is our problem and I'm here for you.

You boss was mean to you. You want to bounce other careers around or see if I can find someone to hire you? No, well grow up everyone's boss is shit. Either leave or deal with it.

Your misses just cheated on you. Right come on I'll get the guys and we'll go to the pub, she's a cunt you're better off without her.

Also hand shakes are fucking great. I usually go for a shake and a quick hug. But the handshake is better.

[–] ttpphd@mastodon.social 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

@Wanderer @Rodeo

"Day to day shit is your own problem"

Yeah I find your attitude toxic.

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find it toxic when people go on and on about minor problems that are in no way relevant to the people in the conversation and there is no way they can help.

All it is doing is bringing unneeded negativity into an environment. That's toxic.

You want help? Yine I can help how? You want to ruin my free time when I'm trying to de-stress by going on about people and things that have nothing to do with me and I can't help? Go away.

[–] ttpphd@mastodon.social 1 points 1 year ago

@Wanderer thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Then we'll all be happier if you dump your emotions on someone else.

I find complaining to be toxic. Which is why this thread sucks so much. We're all just whining about each other.

[–] ttpphd@mastodon.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

@Rodeo interestingly, I'm learning a lot from this interaction. Like about how men normalize day to day misery and disconnection. So I'm very glad that this thread exists; thank you for being honest.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

Hey at least you didn't try to call me broken.