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I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are
(newsweek.com)
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As others have said, it's not just men that perceive that negatively; women do also. I can't recall who said it, but feminism has meant that there are many different ways to be a woman now, but there is still only one socially acceptable way to be a man. The social consequences to men for being emotionally vulnerable can mean the loss of all social connections; I know that I lost about 3/4 of the people I thought were friends when I failed to successfully complete suicide. That creates a very strong disincentive to being vulnerable in the future.
That's it there, as a younger man most of the relationships I've been in end around 1-3 months in when I start trusting them and open up more emotionally. They almost always start ignoring me, ghost me or tell me it's not working out.
It makes you really just lose confidence in yourself as a person, when you're reserved they want you they want your body, once you open up and you're vulnerable even once everything changes all of the sudden.
I'm lucky to have a girlfriend who doesn't think like that, the fact that she is part of LGBT community probably helps.
and here I am wishing I could even find someone who wants me at all, even if it was only for my body
Gym
yeah, I've been hitting the gym since February. hopefully it will count for something some day.