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[–] gruvn@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It's a quote from Charles Dickens' "A Christmas Carol". Scrooge is told this by the ghost of an old business partner, warning him that his miserly greed has consequences. It's a good book, but if you're not up for reading it, you can get the gist from "The Muppets Christmas Carol". 🎅

[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

So my point stands - this isn't about "self fulfilment and happiness", nor is it in any way a motivational quote.

[–] Mr_Blott@feddit.uk 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Christ on a bike, literary metaphors must be a nightmare when you're constantly trying to be offended on other people's behalf to draw attention to yourself 😂

[–] Juice@midwest.social 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Trying to be offended on other people's behalf

its called empathy, dork

[–] nomy@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If you find yourself being overly empathetic in every day situations you may actually be a bit codependent in other aspects of your life, no judgement or anything just saying.

[–] Juice@midwest.social 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Ah yes, showing empathy is actually a sign of mental illness, please provide anything resembling evidence for your claim, because I think its made the fuck up.

Empathy is good and helps us cohere socially and understand each other, no empathy is bad and actually a sign of several personality disorders.

You may want to concern yourself more with how you find yourself than how others find themselves, cuz I think you got it twisted

[–] nomy@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)
[–] Juice@midwest.social 1 points 1 week ago

So is lack of empathy a characteristic of dark triad personality disorder.

I'd take 10000 Bipolar people, some of the most interesting and complex people I've ever met, over one NPD, someone who will ruin your life just to satiate their insatiable egos.

Thanks for the link, I will put it to good use