Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
Rules
Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
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- Build upon the OP
- Discuss concepts rather than semantics
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Do not call other submitters' personal experiences into question.
No bigotry
Slurs, hate speech, and negative stereotyping towards marginalized groups will not be tolerated.
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Do not participate if you have been linked to this discussion from elsewhere. Similarly, links to elsewhere on the threadiverse must promote constructive discussion of men’s issues.
Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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It's just so frustrating... they invite you in with preludes that really do help men:
These are really basic self-help insights that have existed for decades and have aided lots of people (not just men).
But as it turns out the self-help stuff is just a Trojan horse for their bigotry: misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, anti-semitism, and racism.
It's sad to see so many impressionable young men led down such a dark path.
Anyway, good article. This paragraph ran particularly true for me:
This kind of masculinity is inherently fragile and always needs to be defended. It's always threatened... perpetually in crisis, as this says. So requires defensiveness, lashing out, and enemies.
I think we can do better in terms of masculinity.
As a guy who's spent a lot of time trying to unfuck myself, I'd like to say that masculinity can die in a fire, along with femininity. So long as we keep trying to uphold these arbitrary constructs and keep measuring people against them, people will keep failing. Am I sitting right, am I talking right, am I looking right, it's all fucking toxic shit, especially so for people growing up, trying to figure out who they are. I think the way LGBTQ+ folks try to not box people in is closer to the ideal way of being than what most cultures typically do with boys and girls.
Very true