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[–] revlayle@lemm.ee 59 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I only have one biological kid, he is 29 now. The other 3 are step kids. What I realized is that, for reasons probably too long to go on here, is:

  • I am terrible with small kids, the younger, the worse time.
  • Teenagers are easier for me to deal with
  • I don't get that "it's worth it" or "this is the most rewarding thing" feeling. I feel like I should have never had any kids.when I am doing things with kids I am generally thinking "I want to do something else" not involving kids.
  • While I am much better about it these days, there was a 10 year period where i dispised kids, with my spouse, at the time, not making the situation better. I don't hate children, in general, anymore, I am still pretty ambivalent about anyone else kids.

That being said I love my kids, none of the above is their fault whatsoever. However,I totally get why people do not want kids.