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[–] taiyang@lemmy.world 40 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (4 children)

The engineer here definitely has ASD or ADHD and I'm fucking down for it. Way better than narcissistic tech bro syndrome.

Edit for context: I'm teaching strengths based pedagogy regarding neurodiversity, it's on my mind lol

[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 4 hours ago

AuADHD reporting in.

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 15 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Lemmy is slowly shifting from "Communism, Linux, and Beans" into "ADHD, Linux, and Beans"

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

We should bring back some socialism into that list, bean-friend

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 8 points 6 hours ago (1 children)
[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I lean anarcho-syndicalist but I'm down with the A-C too. Just need to keep each other from being murdered by authoritarians, should The Revolution come in our lifetimes.

✊ Fuck the fascists and fuck the tankies ✊

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 1 points 14 hours ago

How do you think Beans became a thing?

I'll tell you, if we were all on my Adderall 24/7, beans, beef stroganoff, stock photos, etc would all be a weird eyebrow raise before onto the next post.

[–] Benign@fedia.io 6 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I have an adhd engineer coleague. We don't give him large or complex tasks, that doesn't work, but he gets all the little things and bugs done before anyone else thinks of picking them up 👌

[–] dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Shit! I love my job as a software developer and my employer is amazing, but I wish they would do this for me. Also ADHD and I have an existential crisis every time I’m on a larger task with little direction.

I love the small things or when things are spec’d out in to small parts. Currently have to extract this sick calendar my boss coded and repurpose it in an application I am creating for them and man it’s not as easy as it sounds when you get overwhelmed.

[–] taiyang@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

My ADHD friend is a software engineer but he's lucky he gets hyperfocus when on new projects that he's interested in. Works an absolute fuckton on it and then the rest help finish off the job after he tires on it, with him giving them guidance in zoom (while playing steam deck on my couch lol)

It takes good leadership though. It's unfortunate managers don't get the same kind of lessons we teach teachers. There are so many ways to accommodate your work method.

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 3 points 14 hours ago

Hey, I do this. Sort of. Makes me wonder if I added my deck into the routine if it would be more effective.

Work that no one has done before and is an interesting problem I can dive into and become a wizard on in no time. Only problem is I rarely get the time required to do it, unless I sacrifice personal time or maybe a goat

[–] OccultIconoclast@reddthat.com 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

What strengths are associated with NPD?

[–] taiyang@lemmy.world 3 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

NPD doesn't get the same treatment since I don't think it's protected under ADA (and IDEA in schools) but even then, there's a school of thought that it comes from an overabundance of high self esteem (rather than a fragile self esteem). If you follow that logic, then things associated with high self esteem, such as confidence, is it's strength.

Mind, I teach non-narcissism high self esteem as both good and bad. On the one hand, you have confidence and are more likely to take action. On the other hand, you're more defensive and it's likely to accept criticism, plus if you think you're awesome you tend to also have contempt for others. Take that to an extreme and you've got narcissism.

Americans are usually taught self esteem as a universal good, so just bringing it up like this raises eyebrows, but there is actually some research to back it.

[–] HalfSalesman@lemm.ee 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

What if you think you kinda suck, but also think most other people are way the fuck worse?

[–] taiyang@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

Well, low self esteem is shown to be more accurate about the world, so that kind of tracks.

[–] OccultIconoclast@reddthat.com 1 points 6 hours ago

If Americans are taught self esteem as a universal good, how come they hate people with NPD so much? They think every abuser is a "narcissist".