I feel you on the "social development" part. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and it helped explain quite a bit about myself. Most men around my age in my area are the stereotypical "sportsball/golf/hunting/jesus" type, none of which I relate to in the slightest, so it's difficult for me to make friends. I'm very much a homebody and tinkerer, and have at least 3 different projects going at any given time (cars/motorcycles, computers, guitars, hobby kits, etc). What's frustrating is that people tend to lose interest very quickly once I start talking and getting into detail... I'm lucky that my wife is supportive as she is - without her I'd have nobody to bounce ideas off of 😅

That, and I was stuck in an abusive marriage for 11 years. I went from hanging out with friends and family all the time to only my highly-possesive and jealous (now ex) wife. Naturally, none of which came out until right after we tied the knot; she changed almost overnight. I'm happily remarried now, but that first marriage stole a lot of my life from me.