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Gay men, what would you like to explain about the "gay best friend" stereotype to staight people? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by vis4valentine@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be clear, im queer and im in a relationship with a gay cis man.

Some days ago we were watching a sketch on YouTube about the gay best friend stereotype, where the joke was basically "I can be misogynistic and can walk into female dressing rooms because im gay". I was trying to gather my thoughts to write a piece about it, personally I have no problem being the "gay friend" to my female friends, but there are a lot of stupid and harmful misconceptions about it. I would like to hear some of your opinions about it.

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[–] crystal@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have no idea what you are trying to say.

Maybe read it again, in context, and decide if there are equal rights to initiate that particular interaction (no matter what the genders or sexualities involved are).

Are you saying that two people, no matter the genders or sexualities, never have the same right to initiate undressing in front of each other? What?

Then have a stern word with yourself about being so incredibly defensive that you end up portraying yourself as a sex pest.

Defensive? I'm neither a gay man nor a heterosexual woman. This doesn't affect me at all.

[–] JoBo@feddit.uk 1 points 1 year ago

The contrast was between someone who chooses to undress in front of someone else, and someone who chooses to barge in in them in a state of undress.

Defensive? I’m neither a gay man nor a heterosexual woman.

Exactly. Think about it. Look deep inside yourself, find a glimmer of self-awareness, and work out what it is that drives you to post like this.