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I'm not so much judging them as bemoaning my own loneliness. To be fair, I've also done a good amount of judging, but that isn't what I'm referring to here.
I'm just talking about companionship. Stimulation. Someone to play board games with, or argue about whether water is wet with.
I had a real group of peers in college. I was surrounded by people smarter than me, and it was great. I actually had to work hard to win games against them, had to actually apply myself to avoid failing my classes, and they would actually debate like they knew what they were doing. I miss it.
I understand. More than you realise.
Few people are interested in what I'm interested in, but companionship is not always about our interests.
Sometimes, you just need to be in the same place as others. Doing similar things. No conversion required.
Go find a local planting day, plant a tree or ten.
Most people don't want a debate, they want pleasant conversation.