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Don't be mean, or shitty about it, but be absolute. "This relationship is no longer working for me, and I cannot continue to see you anymore." Not, "IDK maybe we shouldn't see each other anymore." Whatever variation of how you say it that works for you in fine, but no wishy-washiness.
Cut all contact after. It's very rare for people to be able to be friends with an EX. And it's even harder in the immediate time after the breakup (that's how you end up back together) I say this as someone who is friends with multiple EXs. Those friendships took time, and space, immediately after the breakup.