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You're completely misreading this because you're assuming our brains work the same as neuro-typical brains when it comes to status seeking. The vast majority of autistic people couldn't care less about asserting a "cool flex". The whole point of posts like this is just to say, "this thing that you see as different is because we're different then you NTs and this is why". Being different is only inherently cool if you're an NT. We NEVER win that game, so we don't play it.
In other words, this post is saying "don't tread on me because I'm different than you. There's a reason I do it this way." Your response is essentially "you're actually just like us, so you should just assimilate and learn to be like us. StOp bEinG So EDgy!"
Also, this IS "the weird kid coming out into the light". You just don't like that what that looks like isn't what you expected or, apparently, wanted. No, the world wouldn't be a better place if everyone just saw it the way you do. That's an incredibly immature and self-centered perspective.
If it seems like I'm irked by your comment, it's because I am. This is the exact BS NT people are always trying to cram down our throats without realizing how harmful it is to us. Just let people be who they are. We don't need the entire human race to look and function in pure homogeneous order.
I know it took pain to write that, and thankfully the original comment that inspired it has been removed, but I wanted to thank you for writing your piece. From start to finish, you nailed your point, and I feel personally vindicated by reading your words. I've had to make the same argument so many times, for so many people who can't seem to comprehend that my differences aren't deliberate choices. In fact, sometimes I don't even realize I'm being "different."
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that your comment resonated with me strongly. I saved it for the next time I encounter this sort of situation, because you phrased things so perfectly that I don't think I can improve on it. Thank you.