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[โ€“] PelicanPersuader@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hi fellow lolita! It's such a pain trying to discuss the fashion with people who aren't already into Japanese fashion. I feel weird every time I try to mention it because of the book. Also it's so much deeper than people on the outside think! There's tons of nuance in the brands and sub-styles and it all sounds so pedantic to outsiders. Have you been watching Tyler's new videos?

[โ€“] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 5 points 1 year ago

yeah its incredibly difficult to explain to just random's especially if you are out in public wearing it. Ugh. And I learned early on to just not say the name Lolita unless the other person said it first.

I was never really a Tyler fan and I've never enjoyed the cattiness of the community. That part was disappointing for me because it felt like I couldn't make friends through this hobby. It's why I stopped going to meet up's for it too. It felt like paying to have friends who weren't even interested in actually being friends through a shared interest.