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So, a bit of background about me. I play the drums for fun, used to be a professional musician in the past and basically quit after losing most of my hearing during a live gig with my former band back in 12/2008.

I only started drumming about 10 months ago, I became fairly good quick thanks to some amazing teachers, but only play in my rented session room 4 fun. That is my personal safe space and my version of self therapy.

There's no BS going on in there, just me, drums, a couch for naps, a laptop with webcam for my teachers and a mini fridge for cool drinks.

I suffer from Dysthymia and right now I'm going through a phase of so called double depression again thanks to new meds I couldn't deal with. My thoughts were getting darker and darker, which is almost impossible in the first place, and my energy levels went straight to zero.

Got a text message last night and I thought: 'Ughhh, what's it now? Who wants something from me?' while snug up in my bed.

Yeah, who was that? One of my amazing teachers from the States (I live in Europe) and he was like:

Yooo, haven't heard from you in like two weeks? You doing okay? You good? You haven't booked any new training sessions either.

Yeah, not doing so great right now. It is what it is. Can't say when I want to book a new session to be honest. Everything's fucked in my head right now.

How about you get your ass out of bed and jam with me? I don't want your money, I just want to play with you together, because I think you're awesome and I love your style. I'll never charge money from you ever again, that's a promise. I just want to play along with you, girl!

THAT was a huge compliment. A living music legend like him saying he likes my style?

So, I took my bicycle, hauled my arse over to my session room - which is about 25 minutes away in the middle of nowhere (I live in the countryside) and we just played for about 3 hours until we were both so exhausted, just laughing together, sharing stories and we kicked back a few cold ones via webcam.

That dude is so amazing and chill. And I want to thank him for getting me out of this very dark place last night.

<3

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