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What's a societal expectation you're glad you didn't meet? (lazysoci.al)
submitted 1 day ago by LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al
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There's a lot of societal expectations for women, and often we totally understandably end up meeting them cos we feel we have to. They also sometimes just don't happen for us. What's one you're glad you didn't meet?

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[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (3 children)

Since not getting married or reproducing have both been mentioned quite a bit (and are for sure my top two as well), I’ll go a bit further down the line.

I’m really glad I stopped wearing makeup at 15., and never started again. I’m just shy of 40 now and on the rare occasion I do wear something, for a wedding or something, everyone gushes about how nice it looks and that feels good, but I am thrilled I don’t waste my time or money on it every day. My skin looks 10 years younger, and I’m not financially contributing to marketing campaigns that make people self-conscious about their appearance.

(If makeup is your jam that’s cool, zero judgement, I’m just very lazy and don’t care how I look enough to spend money and time on it)

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 hours ago

I quit wearing makeup around 30. I went lighter, and lighter until I just dont wear it. Putting on mascara is all I do, maybe three times a year for a social event, but that is it.

I have some hydrochloric acid, I think it is, the little blue container from Neutrogena, to help with dry skin, but that is the extent of my skincare routine. My skin is almost always clear and perfect.

I put foundation or cover up on my face once, and I run the risk of breaking out.

Staying out that cycle has made me a happy lady with more money/time for other things. I'm ageing fine.

One thing I was always jealous of men for, they wake up throw on pants and walk out the door. Well, I be like that now too. Love it, and I could never go back.

I also don't hate on women who like it either, but I definitely prefer no makeup myself.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 14 hours ago

I wear make-up maybe twice a year at Big Events™ only. Any other day I just use soap and water and keep my skin as clear as possible. It's very liberating, including of the pocketbook.

[–] LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al 5 points 16 hours ago

Pammy Anderson does the same thing! I totally support your decision.