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For those who had good dads, what is it like? Is it like having a good mom but male? Can you share the problems in your life with them? Do you really love them? If they were to not exist now, would you miss them?
I'm asking the above to men here who had "good dads".
Sorry for the weird questions above. I could never imagine myself loving an older, authoritative male figure in my life. I think it's like a fully blind person not being able to imagine colors? I'm not sure.
Like... Do you feel comfortable around your dad? Does it not feel confining? Like there's this void standing next to you, consuming all of the oxygen in the room?
For those with good dads, were they humble? Did they accept their mistakes? Did you feel comfortable going to them for support?
As a son who had a great dad who passed too soon, yes I really loved him and I miss him terribly. I feel robbed of my chance to have had an adult relationship with him.
In my experience he was not like having a male mom, but no two parents are going to be good at everything anyway. Good parents will usually offer qualities that compliment each other.
My dad taught me a lot of practical knowledge about building and maintaining tools, devices, cars, and homes. He also fostered my interests in airplanes and engineering. He was a role model for me when it came to simply being a nice and caring person. He encouraged me to do things that I liked and supported practically anything I was interested in. He is the sole reason I am into Star Trek and enjoy all kinds of other Sci-Fi.
My dad was one of the nicest and most caring people I have ever known. He always did everything in his power to make people feel welcome and loved.
I miss him every day and wish I could hang out with him again.
Apologies mate didn't click about it being men only, let me know if you want replies from women.
I'm sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve. Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.
Oh noooooo your inputs are still very helpful, don't worry. I still appreciate you replying haha.
I just had a slight preference for men and their dads because I figured I could relate to it better. I've seen dads generally being nice with their daughters, but absolute assholes to their sons (at least growing up in India). I figured that the perspectives would thus be different, that's all.
Thank you. At least the good part is that I don't know how much I have missed (if I have at all). I've never really seen a "good dad" closely I suppose.
I have, but I think my childhood still haunts me here. My hatred for older men with authority prevents me from going even close to this, or even being remotely comfortable with the idea of a "dad". It may be illogical or nonsensical, but hey... ig I need therapy for this lol ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Its slightly funny that this person asked for a man's perspective yet you chimed in anyways, a bit ironic don't you think?
Thanks shades, didn't click about that. Really appreciate you pointing it out.
Hey, no, I don't find it ironic or whatever. Ladybutterfly was trying to help, and that's all that matters. They were kind, they cared and offered resources. That's all that should matter.
OP said "for those" could mean anyone. Plus, why see gender at all? Doesn't affect how you see a parent, or at least it shouldn't.
Literally says men only lol
My mistake, I did miss that line. Premice stands, though, and in the end. Who cares?