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[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 93 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I mean, I still love American Gods, Good omens and Neverwhere. I just stopped recommending them to people.

[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 2 points 15 hours ago

american gods, good omens, sandman.

[–] grue@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago

The thing that really pisses me off re: Good Omens in particular is that it took Pratchett out with him. And we don't get any more of the TV show because of it, either. Even though it's only half-Gaiman, it got ruined anyway.

[–] benignintervention@lemmy.world 42 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I still enjoy his writing, but I'm not sure how to engage now. I want to separate the artist from the art and let the legal system do its thing as a separate thing and I don't know what 'right' looks like as a reader

[–] BossDj@lemm.ee 29 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I can't separate artist and art. I feel guilty and angry. But I also don't want to. Money to them is money to their deeds. Paying for anything Harry Potter is paying for anti-trans movements. Paying anything Gaiman goes to the "fix your image" firm he has hired. Then I start thinking that firm is probably out there with messaging convincing people to separate art from the artist.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Heres what you can do:

Encourage people to pirate his shit

Remind people what he did. In detail.

Start with me! I know he did... Some rapey shit? Pro ably wizard flavored?

[–] medgremlin@midwest.social 6 points 22 hours ago (1 children)
[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Wow that's...

What strikes me is how boring the abuse was. Like, boiler plate horror. Maybe this does make me think less of him as an author, not just as a person.

[–] BossDj@lemm.ee 3 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

Well I haven't looked into the 8 other women. But at least one of the others was absolutely raped, and another was paid off in exchange for an NDA

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Right but like 'call me master' DUDE

Fucking do better. Not even be less a piece of shit, but a more interesting piece of shit.

Like 'i hired a PI to learn the song you had your first kiss to, then spent a week practicing, so just as the acid and molly kick in...'

Or, idk, a choir? Some chanting?

[–] Gerudo@lemm.ee 7 points 1 day ago

Absolutely agree with pirating. Even buying second hand will keep money from going to their pockets/estates.

[–] Seleni@lemmy.world 7 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Buying used copies and pirating his stuff so he never sees a penny, and talking about what a pile of shit he is. I do the same with David and Leigh Eddings. Who locked children in cages in their basement and beat them, among other things.

[–] burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Holy shit, what the fuck? I think I read one edding's book and didn't think much of it, but what the fuck?! Where's my interrobang button!?

[–] Seleni@lemmy.world 1 points 37 minutes ago

Yeah, their books are a decently good romp overall, but some of their ideas about how to ‘properly discipline’ a child definitely leak through from time to time.

[–] dandelion@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago

tbh my feelings seem to be guiding things before anything like rational morality does - I feel cognitive dissonance about his art because of the association with him as a rapist, and that's enough for me to ditch his art without having to justify it as a moral necessity that others must do as well.

[–] Absolute_Axoltl@feddit.uk 2 points 1 day ago

Well ultimately you didn't do anything wrong, he did. So proceed how you wish. If you read some of his work nothing changes and that's the same if you choose not to.

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 24 points 1 day ago

They’re great books, but I just can’t enjoy them anymore. American Gods was my favorite of the three.