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I believe she had BPD as well, which in itself often gets you targeted harassment online while also making you extremely sensitive to said harassment.
Wait what? People harass people online because they've got BPD? Like they specifically target people who are suffering from BPD? Why??
Fucking gross.
Well, it is unfortunately symptomatic. Lived with one for 10 years. Gave everything. It is not easy to admit that most of the even self aware sufferers will automatically manipulate and stir up drama due to the impossible weight of their own guilt and anger which if you want to help you have to realise is never going away and more often than not continually hurt anyone around them. It's sad that giving energy and help to sufferers is so draining and destructive and if you want support many people react like you. Except in support groups. So if anyone is reading : take care of yourself first, giving more than you have is bad for everyone and it will be hard not to. Support groups are your friend as many that are in the same situation sharing and understanding is deeply important to survive
No, people don't specifically look for people with BPD. I believe you misunderstood.
Because hurt people hurt people.
People with BPD can be very manipulative and controlling, they can leave you with your own psychological trauma if they're not self aware enough to realise what they're doing. And some people are just evil and don't try be better. So there are a lot of people who have been hurt by people with BPD and they then become a target for harassment.
Sad part is that most people with BPD just want to be loved. Unfortunately they can't trust love or anyone around them. It's fucked and really hard to manage, but possible with a lot of hard work.
I've been hurt a lot by people with BPD. I have provided a lot of emotional (and financial) support only to eventually be taken for granted and/or abused. Some people with BPD can be absolute monsters.
It's taken years of therapy and self healing to understand how they're hurting too and seriously don't understand how they're hurting others sometimes.
Just wish more people could learn to not lash out when they're hurt and seek healing. It's hard regardless if you've got BPD, PTSD, or whatever, but it's always the right way to go. Everyone deserves respect and understanding.
Is BPD bi-polar disorder? Or borderline personality disorder?
BPD is borderline. BD is Bipolar Disorder. But most commonly referred to as simply bipolar.
BPD is borderline personality disorder.
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I don't know her at all - is that BPD diagnosis something confirmed, thet she shared and all?
I have terribly mixed feelings about people with BPD.
On one side, lots of empathy: they often feel miserable and (not always, but) very often their BPD is the result of trauma or abuse.
On the other, and having lived it for a decade and a half: they can make the lives of people in their surroundings an absolute abominable horror-movie type of nightmare.
It's actually treatable but not all people with BPD seek treatment, it's a tough one.
Yeah, her husband shared it when he announced the news on Tuesday (or Monday?).
There just aren't enough therapists learning how to administer dialectical behavior therapy. Very helpful for people with BPD, addiction problems, or PTSD.
BPD is brutal on the people close to the person with the disorder. Absolutely brutal.
My sister has BPD. My parents cut her off after some particularly spectacular episodes. I stuck up for her even after she wasn't allowed around anymore. She tried to off herself in my room when I let her hide out from her boyfriend (not the first time she did that). She ended up moving in with that scumbag who on multiple occasions beat her senseless and threw her out of a moving vehicle. I had to come over (strapped mind you) and escort her from his place to the station onto a greyhound to go live with her cousin. I have so much fuckin trauma on account of her. She's better now, for now. If it comes to it again tho I'll always fight tooth and nail to keep her safe, regardless of how outrageously she behaves. That's my fuckin sister.
Thank you, you're an amazing sibling. Just don't let her abuse you. I hope she is getting help, it can get better.
I have an uncle who has been cut-off from the family because he refuses to treat his ~~BPD~~ bipolar (whoops) and his sisters got tired of taking care of/cleaning up after him. "Doesn't like how the medicine makes him feel". Pretty sure he started self-medicating with other stuff and found a woman who enables him, don't know exactly (it's been two decades since I last heard from him)
If he was taking medicine for it, it likely wasn’t BPD; BPD doesn’t have any chemical treatments. Treatment is usually Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to try and regulate the person’s emotions and establish a more normalized baseline emotional state. But that requires a lot of personal effort, and many people with BPD refuse to follow through with it. And CBT only really helps with the emotional outbursts; It doesn’t do a lot for the abandonment issues, desires to self-harm, dissociation, etc…
Maybe he was bipolar? Bipolar is in the same category as schizophrenia, because the mania produces delusions and hallucinations. And it is treated with meds similar to schizophrenia.
BPD relies on DBT and not CBT
Bipolar is indeed what I meant, I forgot that Borderline Personality Disorder took the initialism. It's also probable that he has more than just that going on.
I personally cannot confirm it, I just saw it being mentioned on one of the BPD subs on reddit.
I think it's important to differentiate people with mental health issues and bad people with mental health issues.
I have BPD, it sucks so much and I suffer a lot of emotional pain. I have hurt some people, but the first person I really hurt, I loved like no other, and when she told me what I was doing to her when she left me, I decided not to be that person anymore.
I've fucked up a lot of my life during my worse episodes, but I choose not to be a horrible person to the people around me. I don't always get it right, but I try.
A diagnosis doesn't make you evil or bad, that's a personal choice.
Bless you, take care of yourself and loved ones. If you do anything at all, please have safeguards against the most harrowing statistics with suicide on this diagnosis. Even worse if you are male but that's beside the point <3