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What are The signs about you being trans that your pre Crack self ignored/overlooked? (feddit.org)
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I'll go firstt:

1: Regularly thinking that girls got all the cute clothes
2: Buying female clothes (skirt and some underwear) for "cross dressing"
3: Feeling physical pain when having to put off bought female clothes to go outside
4: Imagining yourself as the women in porn (that's why I at first though I was "just gay")
5: Being sad when thinking about trans people and realising I couldn't transition because I'm not trans
6: Absolutely suppressing every form of thought when thinking about "the trans topic" (in a way that sometimes I reflected myself and thought that I may be trans, but I 100% suppressed those thoughts knowing damn well, that this wasn't that much of a good strategy. This also included the thought "acts trans, looks trans, probably is trans", that crossed my mind after taking LSD for the first time)
7: Dissociating kinda regularly. Happened usually when reading fantasy books. Didnt realise it was dissociation until like 3 weeks ago

Probably missed some stuff but those are the most significant ones. Quite a lot of stuff are signs that appears around the last year or so.

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[–] compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

  1. I was so relieved when my wife came out to me as bisexual, you know, "just in case"

  2. Being jealous of women for having all the fun colors and variety in clothing, feeling dejected that men’s fashion was much more utilitarian and boring

  3. Feeling uncomfortable and not knowing how to act in groups of all men

  4. Having the thought “if I could decide for myself on a do-over, I’d want to be a lesbian woman”. I assumed all men felt this way lol

  5. Hating and vigorously resisting the gendered uniform rules enforced by Catholic school’s (like growing my hair as long as possible, and the school had to make a rule saying that boys couldn’t wear jewelry other than a religious medal or a watch)

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 4 points 4 days ago (2 children)

the school had to make a rule saying that boys couldn’t wear jewelry other than a religious medal or a watch

That's one of the dumbest rules I ever heard. I'm not that much of a fan of school uniforms, but you can devinetively argue, that it reduces the chances for bullying when everyone's wears the same clothes. However, that is just straight up bullshit.

[–] compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I’ve heard that argument in favor of uniforms, but it also happens that then the kids with older, hand-me-down uniforms just wind up being bullied. In my opinion, suppressing children’s self-expression through uniforms does more harm than good.

But yeah, it was very dumb. I guess no boys had ever tried to wear jewelry before, but then I came along wearing necklaces and multiple rings, and they had to shut that right down. I do take a small amount of pride in being rebellious enough to cause a rule to be made haha

But now as an adult, it’s so weird - why were a bunch of adults so concerned about whether a kid in elementary school likes to wear rings?

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 5 points 4 days ago

but it also happens that then the kids with older, hand-me-down uniforms just wind up being bullied

I know, this is also why I dont like the "bully argument" because no matter what kids will always find something to bully others over.

But now as an adult, it’s so weird - why were a bunch of adults so concerned about whether a kid in elementary school likes to wear rings?

I dont know, but I completely agree. That's simply straight up stupid. No ones is getting hurt and no one should care. Instead the adults should teach the kids to step outside of boxes to form a more tolerant and accepting generation.