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How do I [32M] have a "slut phase"? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by CaptainStack@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hear me out. First, I know sex isn’t everything and I know that hooking up and getting laid isn’t going to solve deeper needs and insecurities that I am working on.

That said, I’m also getting out of a long and bad relationship that has left me feeling like I missed so many experiences and opportunities in what ultimately were the final years of my 20s.

I never really properly figured out dating or hooking up. Even though it’s not literally true, I feel like the only person I’ve been with is someone where we skipped straight to “serious long term relationship” which not only contributed to why we didn’t work out, but also kind of stunted my development when it comes to romance and sex.

So now I’m trying to take a step back and just kind of loosen up and have fun in a way I feel I never have before. I do want to develop real connections and long term relationships, but I also want a bit of time away from that first.

Only problem is, I have no clue how and I do feel just a bit old for it. I’m on Tinder and frankly it just feels like nobody is interested.

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[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

That is kinda the whole grift of Tinder and other dating apps. Your frustating experience is by design so you use the app as long as you can, because once you find that person and a date and stay with them, you just gonna delete the fucking app and they know it.

Don't worry, the app intentionally wants to make you miserable while trying to get you as few matches as possible so you keep swiping daily.