How does anyone believe in monogamy nowadays? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by DudePluto@lemm.ee to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

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Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.

50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[-] elephantium@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Not really. You pretty much dodged the question.

If I say I'm monogamous, when do you start calling me a liar?

When you say "so and so is hot!" and I don't argue?

When I say "so and so is hot!"?

When I bang so and so without breaking up with my current partner?

I've read this entire thread, and I'm still not entirely sure where you'd draw that line.