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for one, I want it to happen organically which means I've been trying to be outgoing every time I'm there and very patient lol
the big issue is they work in a dispensary. And I actually know them from the last dispensary they worked in. But that place was kinda shitty and they were on shift alone a lot but it was easier to flirt with them back then.
I'm a fool and should have asked back then but didn't for some reason. I think I was still stuck on it happening organically then too.
But now where they work, there's always other people there. There's only been a few times where I was able to talk to them when they were alone and I actually apologized to them recently for being super awkward every time we interact and they agreed they were also being that way lol
anyway, I've felt bad about this for awhile but I feel a lot better about it now that I've talked to them about our previous interactions and they always compliment me when I'm in there. so here's hoping something good happens Saturday.
Dude, you've just gotta go in and ask em if they want to go for coffe sometime, because either they're into you too or you're the creepy customer who followed them from one dispensary to another to flirt with them. I really hope it's the first, but if it's the latter you've gotta leave that poor retail worker alone and find a new dispensary.
Yeah, I felt bad about it because of comments like this. I didn't know they went to work at a different dispensary that happened to be closer to my house.
They're fine and they always compliment me - I've complimented them once. We also talked recently and they said all our awkward interactions were fine too.
Well then get yo ass over there and ask em out!
I only see them there on Saturdays lol
kid, don't listen to them. you do you. at your own speed.
lol thank you! I'd much rather it come up in conversation instead of me awkwardly going in there and spilling my guts by just asking them out.
kid, don't listen to them. you do you. at your own speed.
so aggressive
It's friendly banter, calm down
Why are using plural? Who are "they"? I'm not from US so I might be missing something, sorry...
"They" is also used as genderless singular, since OP didn't specify their or their crush's gender you'd use "they" instead of "he/she"
If I can add my two cents, an organic meet cute is overrated. We all want that cute βwe met in a bookstore and bonded over favorite authorsβ story but it has so little bearing on the actual relationship. My guy and I met on tinder and had a very original first date at a brewery lol. But four years in and that part is inconsequential.
Take that step and see what happens! Regardless, it sounds like youβre headed that direction, so best of luck!
See, I never really have meet cutes. I do what you did and got no where. I've met loads of guys and girls on dating apps and they all ghost.
I don't get the hate for meet cutes outside of they are hard to achieve and take lots of patience.
Itβs not βhateβ for meetcutes, itβs just resistance to the idea that a cute origin story has any substantial effect on the future of the relationship.
I mean, its a common thing I see that people seem to try and discourage. Seems like people don't like it in general for some reason.