Out of my league means that there’s a high chance I’m going to get rejected. How do I know? It happened to me. It happened to my friends.

Does this guarantee that I will be rejected? No. Does mean that I’m putting the person on a pedestal? No.

It merely means that being rejected sucks. It’s not fun. And to avoid that sucky feeling I’ve chosen to avoid pursuing people with a high chance of rejection.

This behavior is not putting people on a pedestal. After all, if people of my league were truly that amazing, it would be worth it to pursue them. Kind of a high risk, high reward approach. Instead, it’s generally true that a relationship with of an out of my league person is just as fulfilling as someone in my league.

Tldr: out of my league means high risk, low reward