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So, on pronouns.
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I've been to conferences where the name tag has a place for pronouns but most people don't fill them out. 99% of the time it's safe to assume the pronouns you believe are correct, are correct. If you get told otherwise use the preferred pronouns in the future. If someone freaks out over it after one mistake that's their problem.
You can also get around pronouns by just using names. I find i rarely need to use pronouns.
Just one thing to add, people freaking out is extremely uncommon. I haven't even heard about a case IRL, even for trans people it isn't something that tends to happen.
Don't be afraid to just guess when you are unsure, you can always ask though and at least for younger generations it isn't seen as weird or unpolite to do so
The only place it happens is in conservatives' minds and when people make the "mistake" on purpose.
A.K.A "the Jordan Peterson experience"
And as a bonus linguistic fun fact:
Everyone is they/them until you find out otherwise
Or at least that's how I was taught English
"I went to see a doctor about my headaches today."
"Oh good, what did X say?"
Anyone that doesn't use 'they' here either has more information than I provided or is a bit sexist.