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So, on pronouns. (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by shapis@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have a few questions on how to best behave to be as welcoming and inclusive as possible without sounding bad. I hope you guys don't hate me.

I'm just a straight male. Are my pronouns he/him? Is that how I should tell people? Do you actually tell them as you meet them ? Do I have to wait for a certain social cue ?

How about online. Should I tell people or have it on my personal profile somewhere?

And about respecting other people's pronouns. How do i figure them out ? Is it a big faux pas if I don't before I know them ? Is it a faux pas if I refer to someone I just met and I assumed to be male as he/him?

I've never seen anyone referring to anyone irl by non conventional pronouns. Is it an actual thing or is it currently being pushed to make the world a more inclusive place?

I'd love some help with all of this.

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[–] wintermute_oregon@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I explained why troll and don’t use the term cis. It’s offensive. I don’t identify as cis.

Shouldn’t you have asked if I identify as cis or did you just assume I used the term cis?

See how quickly you just violated your own rules you tried to chastise me for?

So go troll somewhere else with your fake concern.

[–] posthexbearposting@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Ofc the whinging about cis comes out. You're cis by the literal definition of the word. Get over it loser.

PIGPOOPBALLS

[–] wintermute_oregon@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for validating that you are just a concern troll.

Either people get to self-describe, or they do not. You really don't believe any of this, you just want to seem 'concerned'.

[–] posthexbearposting@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not concerned. I'm just calling you out for being a moron and a transphobe. Your time will come lib. stalin-gun-1

[–] wintermute_oregon@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I am neither, but you violated your own rules in your first reply. It just shows you're a concern troll. Why is it that so many people from Hexbear think people won't see their BS when it's so obvious? I am neither a moron nor a transphobe. I am consistent, which is something you are not. So you are only here to troll. I will be blocking you now as I can't be bothered with trolls.

[–] posthexbearposting@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

PIGPOOPBALLS

[–] posthexbearposting@hexbear.net 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I explained why

saying you're offended by people not assuming you are a man implies it's bad to be a different gender, or trans/nb. Idk why you are so scared of people confirming your gender. You are the biggest ❄ on the planet and i cannot wait until you melt.

[–] Shinhoshi@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 1 year ago

I don’t identify as cis.

So you’re trans, then?