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Honestly, this is why I don't listen to music with the n-word in it. If I'm not allowed to speak that word, I don't want it in my subconscious.
Yeah this is the one instance where idgaf I'm saying it.
Nah. I listen to 90s hip hop quite a bit. No way around the word.
I still don't even dare to say it even when I'm alone in my car and singing along because I don't want to slip if I ever sing it in public
I do the same, but this is really the issue with words some people are allowed to say but others aren't. Hearing something all the time and not saying it just isn't something we're built for. So it's kind of like encouraging a cultural separation.
If I recall correctly, many organizations that advocate in the interest of black people prefer no one use the word.
It's for that reason why I advocate for everyone to be allowed to say it just like we do with cracker yea one is more prominent than the other but man if we are equal than shouldn't it be easy to decide if slurs are allowed at all or not yet again I advocate for all slurs to be allowed by everyone because banning them just gives them power via significance
I mean, it's not that difficult. I listen to plenty of rap and I don't think I've ever spoken the word, certainly not in public. I don't see it as cultural separation but as cultural respect. ~~Eminem has gone an entire rap career without saying it, and he doesn't seem very fussed about it.~~
Edit: He has said it before earlier in his career, but not now for quite a while. The general point I'm making is the same though.
For me when I hear someone speak my internal monologue patterns itself after their speech for a while, and I've heard others describe the same. Accents shift over time if you move somewhere with a different accent. I think it's possible to have your words follow a set of rules, but for most people that will take active filtering that will make their speech less off-the-cuff and might slip if they are tired or drunk or something.
You know it's interesting, because I'm the same way, but I haven't had that happen for me. Not saying you're wrong, it's just interesting how the phenomenon varies. If I have one long listen/exposure, multiple hours long, then I'll it happen to me. That isn't a common occurrence though.
I get your point though. I suppose it just comes down to how someone's brain is wired, and to what level they can separate it from their own speech.
If it's in the song I like I just go along with. Me doing that isn't in any negative way. If the artist don't like some people say it, they shouldn't put in there.
Skipping it or bleeping it out is like censoring art.
This reminds of when Kendrick Lamar got a white girl on stage and let her sing along with him. As soon she drops the n-word he stops the song and she got shit from everybody there.
He did give her a second try on the song.
Hypocrite
He actually mentions this on his new album in the song Auntie Diaries, which is about him learning to understand his trans aunt and cousin. He uses gay slurs throughout the song as an example of what he'd say when he was younger. There's a very poignant moment I'll paraphrase:
"I said those words but I didn't know any better. I was taught that words were [just words]." - Kendrick
"Kendrick, ain't no room for contradiction. [Let's look at it from a different perspective]. F* F* F* we can say it together, but only if you let a white girl say n--" - Cousin who's trans
I think I've heard the response to this from creators, the idea is that it isn't made for you. They create media informed by black experiences and tailored for black audiences. They don't feel like they should have to change that to accommodate white/non-black audiences, and not doing so shouldn't be a free pass for people to turn bigoted language back at them.
Take what you will from that, and consider that I cited a vague "they" with no clear reference or origin. I'm going off shoddy memory, and as a non-black person.
Sir this is a Christian house hold
Same reason I tend to avoid songs with swears.
You're missing out on a lot of really, really good music.
I know. When I made that choice I got rid of some songs I really liked. That's the price I'm paying for keeping my mind more free of words I am forbidden from using.
yeah I get this. part of ADHD for me is having a lot of impulsive words floating through my head. I try to avoid things I wouldn't want falling out later. I remember in high school I had a revival of "aw, gay" that kept popping up in my head, even though it had already died out socially years ago and I hadn't said it (in that manner) in years. I probably saw it again on TV or something and it just stuck. it took a lot of conscious power to just stop saying it reflexively when I died in a video game or whatever.
I don't know how to say this in a way that doesn't sound like I'm shit talking so I'll just put this here and say I mean it without sarcasm or insult.
That's a hell of a sacrifice, and I wouldn't make it, but I do respect your commitment.
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What do you mean you're "not allowed to speak" it? lol. Y'all are so weird about being racist.
You're ridiculous. You have that much trouble not saying nigga that you have to pretend the word doesn't exist?