It was sometime in early 2022 that I found myself reading a few romance novels. I remember being mildly annoyed about how most of the books had instant chemistry/attraction as part of the plot. Then I suddenly found myself wondering, how do I feel if and when I feel attraction? I think I have probably never felt instant attraction. When I look at a good looking man/woman I just feel an appreciation for their beauty, like how I would feel looking at a beautiful painting or photograph. At most all I feel is a wish is to look at them a few times more than is appropriate. I don’t remember how it feels like to feel attraction towards someone I have feelings for. The last time I felt strong feelings for someone was many years ago and I can’t recall my feelings now. I am very curious to know how other people feel when they experience attraction towards someone. How does it feel physically, and what thoughts and/or feelings do you experience? Also, do you consider chemistry and attraction to be the same or different? How?
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this post was submitted on 20 Nov 2023
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For me, it's a primal thing, it's not something that's you think about. Like you see someone and it's not like you stop and think through things and decide that you want to do this or that with them. It's just this deep instinctual thing, you just want them. It's almost like hunger, it's not something you have control over, more it's controlling you in part
OK I think that makes some sense, comparing it with hunger. Interesting.