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[–] VubDapple@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago (6 children)

There is a post on lesswrong which compiles the accusations made by the sister. Having worked with many incest victims, family scapegoats and Cinderellas I'll say the story is familiar to what I've heard before and therefore credible.

[–] Zima@kbin.social 0 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Is it usual that all the family and even therapists side against alleged victim? I think it's not impossible if the person is so traumatized and troubled to the point that the family rejects her but I struggle to believe that is the usual case.

[–] AlmightySnoo@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Is it usual that all the family and even therapists side against alleged victim?

On the family conspiring against a single member part, you might want to look up Harrison Post or watch the "Britney vs Spears" documentary (though that's a bit different and doesn't have to do with rape, Britney was the rich person and her family conspired against her to take over her wealth, had a psychiatrist, James Spar, fabricate a report against her that subsequently just miraculously disappeared from the court files and even picked a lawyer for her who would side with them).

Going back to this story, the "shht, let's not ruin the future of our child prodigy, so even if Sam did something bad to you you will keep your mouth shut" is not that rare among families. Conspiracies by families to cover up rape done by one of them do happen:

Another very important point that makes Annie Altman's story highly believable is that since 2020 she's been resorting to sex work (and also begged on Instagram one day) just to survive, while Sam has a net worth of over half a billion. As I said in another comment, if one of your siblings needs to do sex work to survive while you have hundreds of millions of $s at your disposal, then no matter whether the accusations are true or not, you're the bad person and there's something fundamentally evil about you. Going back to the sex work part, here's what the statistics say (translated from German: https://www.rheinmaasklinikum.de/Inhalt/Patienten/_doc/Evangelische/Hintergrundinformationen_zur_psychischen_Situation_von_maennlichen_und_weiblichen_Prostituierten.pdf ):

In Hamburg, 98% of sex-workers examined were diagnosed with at least one traumatic event. 83% had already experienced trauma in childhood (family violence 70%, physical abuse 65%, sexual abuse 48%). Trauma experienced during prostitution was found in 83% (physical attack 61%, rape 61%, threat with a weapon 52%). Here, 53% achieved an illness score in the sense of post-traumatic stress disorder. Abuse and dependence on illegal drugs at 74%. Similar alarming findings can be found in international comparative studies.

And also (https://bmcwomenshealth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12905-017-0491-y ):

Intimate partner violence was experienced by 21.2% of sex workers, and 23.4% reported client physical or sexual violence. The majority of sex workers (71.2%) reported childhood (i.e., when age <18 years) physical or sexual abuse.

[–] Zima@kbin.social 0 points 11 months ago

I think you clearly can show that it's possble but that doesn't mean it's likely the articles suggest it but they don't have any statistics to back it up. there is no equivalence between being poor and conspiring to get someone's money and cutting out someone from their inheritance.

I completely disgree with your view that if you have money you have to help family even if they are radioactive to you. in some cases it's best to take distance. especially if the other person is so troubled that whenever you help it just backfires because they can't stop the drama.

I don't doubt that most sex workers have trauma issues or even childhood issues, the part I'm not finding easy to accept is that it's likely that the family would usually side with the accuser.

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