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Have you had any bad experiences with people on Lemmy? (iusearchlinux.fyi)
submitted 1 year ago by myrrh@iusearchlinux.fyi to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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I was recently talking to some friends about Lemmy and the whole Fediverse idea, as it seemed like a really cool part of the Internet. As I was talking about it, though, I realized how unusually friendly this whole place is, and I joked that I "surprisingly haven't found any bigotry."

I'm wondering if anyone has come across that, by any chance. If it's rare, my guess is that even though it's decentralized, each instance has a set of rules and values that are shared throughout the Fediverse, and I'm guessing it's easy to defederate with any seedy communities haha.

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[–] maegul@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've personally been wondering this and wanted to ask you precisely this but didn't because I figured it'd be rude. I hope it's going ok!?

But yea, it unfortunately makes sense that the reddit migration would have brought over more "mainstream" rubbish.

This, plus what's happening over on Threads and the arguments here about the fedipact etc, for me, have seriously raised the prospect that as much of a critique can be leveled at the culture often (and pejoratively) dubbed "HOA" etc, actually being protective of a culture to the point of coming off as "gate keeping" etc has real world value.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I mean, that's the selling point of this instance. We are aggressively protective of the queer community. I explicitly aim to cut the toxicity off at the source rather than forcing each of our users to react to it after they see it. The wall is there to ensure we can exist without having to be on guard all of the time, and the HOA stuff is often driven by people who don't care if we're on guard, or actively want us to feel unsafe

[–] maegul@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

the HOA stuff is often driven by people who don’t care if we’re on guard, or actively want us to feel unsafe

... sighs ... yea

I think @zens / @bri_seven puts it quite well whenever someone tries to describe aspects of the fediverse as inevitable ... they repeatedly say something to the effect that the real danger is the one that tries to convince the victim that the abuser/monster is simply a force of nature that must be accepted.

Just my ranting there ... hope your instances go well and the moderation work isn't too much for you!! And thanks for the response!