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Fiction aside, you can learn how to resist this sort of madness.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pieces-mind/201207/radical-acceptance
This isn't just a defence against the eldritch, radical acceptance is a paradigm that will let you move past being a victim of circumstances, it will allow you to transition yourself into a person that dictates your circumstances.
You couldn't have known it, but this is exactly the article I needed to read right now. Thank you.
And, like all things, it's a question of wise measure. Too much radical acceptance can bring you in the vicinity of dangerous fatalism. And like fatalism, it's a tool, right, and an important one. Mind the dosage, though.
Radical acceptance has gotten me through a lot of things, and my wife is going through a tremendous amount right now so she's trying to accept also.
The problem is that down the road you may look back on the situation and decide that you handled it entirely wrong by dissociating. YMMV
See funny enough acceptance has just made me casually suicidal and uninterested in participating in the grander world because of it's bullshit. I'm not directly suicidal just completely done with self interests or dealing with others so... You know... Be careful if what your normalize and how you feel about things.
You can't accept what hasn't happened yet. You could do something about circumstances to position yourself for the future.