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What's the biggest "Green Flag" that could be misinterpreted as a "Red Flag"? (midwest.social)

submitted 11 months ago by Lanky_Pomegranate530@midwest.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[+] 13esq@lemmy.world -13 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I know it's meme terminology, it doesn't change the point I'm trying to make and you're just arguing about semantics.

I will admit that I used to look at women way out of my league and they were definitely not looking back, that's what inspired me to get fit. Call me vain or a fashion victim or porn addict or anything else. I get the attention that I want now and your name calling means nothing to me, chunkystyles.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 17 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Just FYI, using the concept of "leagues" is definitely a red flag.

People is people.

[+] 13esq@lemmy.world -8 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Interesting opinion, I've never heard that before.

I think attractive people mostly seek relationships with other attractive people, I don't think that's controversial.

How many couples do you know where one is absolutely stunning with a fit body and the other looks a roast ham? You could probably cherry pick a few but it'll be a huge minority or you'll find out that the ugly one is a multi millionaire or something.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 6 points 11 months ago (2 children)

A fair number of them. Long term relationships are based on things other than appearance.

[–] SoylentBlake@lemm.ee -5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yea and with those couples? The stunner with the stud from Microsoft?

Yea that's called money.

You can say peeps is peeps and highlight outliers all you want but the generalizations are there because they're true.

Look up some hoe_math on YouTube. His charts are deadpan no bullshit. Brilliant stuff.

[–] 13esq@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm pretty sure there are a lot of chubsters in this thread pissed off that they're getting some home truths because you've said absolutely nothing incorrect.

[–] SoylentBlake@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Clearly, that's why I hopped up on the downvote wagon with you, the truth is the truth, even if you don't like it.

What's ironic, is this guy (and the downvoters) seem incapable of recognizing that we are both right.

Exceptions, outliers exist, obviously, but that doesn't make the generalization not true. They are both true.

Look at the flipside, has anyone even see some tattooed, fit, charming guy with an old out of shape Karen on a back of his motorcycle? No? Why is that? Would that be because he can pull a fit, younger girl, or multiples of that?

None of this is new news. Railing at the system while using the system isn't going to change the system.

Instead of being bitter that you're starting position wasn't perfect, be grateful that the resources are almost universally available. You might not be able to get much of "A" but you don't need 100% of any of the like ~20 attributes that make you an appealing mate.

Like, dudes, the answers RIGHT THERE, how much closer would you be if you had worked on your skills instead of just bitching online or being bitter? So you have to work on shit, but guess what, WE ALL DO. Ffs. How's this so hard to grasp?