Yeah, it is rough, but keep in mind dating is hard for most people so it's less of a you problem than your brain want to make it feel like.

And don't think of it as being a "top" person or not. It's healthier and more accurate to think of it as compatibility. There's not a linear scale of people. When someone's interested in you (for the right reason) it's because you work together as people, not because you're the best person they can get and vice versa.

You're not misogynistic, but watch out for the people who try to portray dating as more adversarial than it is so they can profit from amplifying our insecurities.