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[–] Rosco@sh.itjust.works 36 points 10 months ago (2 children)

At this point I think I'll just adopt. Plenty of kids to go around, no need to make more.

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Its a grueling slog in a good state and a fucking nightmare in a bad one. My experience with the Texas adoption system has me convinced that the entire agency is run by a collection of sadists. Feels like it exists just to traumatize people further.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Worth it to try and get at least one kid out of that nightmare system. If it's that bad to adopt, imagine how bad it is to be completely at its mercy.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The bigger problem is that it can be prohibitively expensive, which is why the 'people will just adopt unwanted children' line that anti-abortion advocates take is bullshit. They make as many barriers to adoption as possible, the biggest one being cost.

And worse, they can deny you outright. For things like having the wrong religion. State-funded adoption agencies.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

All legitimate concerns. It's definitely not the best option, or even feasible, for everyone. But it deserves more consideration than it tends to receive whenever the subject of having kids comes up.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I think along with that consideration is a necessary discussion about easing the difficulty of going through the process.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

Oh, definitely. The system is horrendously broken.