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Cisgender people of Lemmygrad: why are you cis? (lemmygrad.ml)
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~semi-~ Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.

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[–] cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Path of least resistance i guess. I'm always trying to put in the least amount of effort possible on things that don't matter that much to me, and my gender expression is just not something that i really care about anymore so i just go with what is easiest and takes the least amount of maintenance.

As for why straight people exist, i don't know... do they? I used to think so but now I'm not so certain anymore. Nowadays i tend to think that everyone is more or less on a spectrum. Being completely straight seems as impossible to me as reaching absolute zero temperature. You can approach it but never really reach it.

So yeah, in conclusion i think straight people are probably a myth, and the only reason i'm cis is because every other option sounds like too much work.

[–] AdlachGyfiawn@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I don't agree with this one-drop rule for straightness. I have incidentally found men attractive, but at the end of the day, that's the exception: I have found thousands of women attractive for every such incidence. It is disingenuous to call me as bisexual as a result—or at least renders the term meaningless.

[–] QueerCommie@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Sure, but no one is strictly pure straight.

[–] AdlachGyfiawn@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I don't dispute that, but it doesn't change its usefulness as a metric. I guess the question is where does 'straightness' end and 'bisexuality' begin? I'd argue that a Kinsey 1, for example, is still a straight guy. Labels are less like algebra and more like statistics—there's always a bit of fuzz around the edges, or outliers you need to ignore.

[–] QueerCommie@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 8 months ago

Totally agree, everyone’s gotta be a tiny bit bi, that might explain people being ok cis. Even people who really think they’re straight are probably attracted to some enbies or femboys (who turn everyone gay).