but does that make them a catboi that will lick the back of their paws for a million gil?

Absolutely it does, you just can't do that in real life, because catbois, contrary to popular belief, don't exist, and gillionaire whales willing to fund these ventures also don't exist.

I think the difference here is that people are more multifaceted than they care to admit, and there is no real "you". You can just as easily get lost in the sauce of catboi erotic roleplay as many can get lost in the sauce of ironically being a callous asshole. If I have learned anything, it is that irony doesn't exist, and there is no core "reality". I mean, there's like a core physical reality, probably, but that's not really what I mean.