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[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 39 points 7 months ago (4 children)

It also helps LBGT couples who can't have children get them. I don't see an issue even if there is money involved if it is clearly not coerced.

[–] Alto@kbin.social 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

The issue is ensuring its clearly not coerced, which is effectively impossible in practice. Unfortunately it's one of those things where once you allow people to be paid for it, it's gets really, really dark, really, really quickly.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 12 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I don't think it's impossible at all. If the surrogate knows the person or people who want the child personally, it's almost certainly not coerced even if money changes hands.

[–] wintermute_oregon@lemm.ee 9 points 7 months ago

Exactly. My cousin liked being pregnant but they already had five kids. Yes; she was paid but the money was token. It paid for medical care, food, etc. to her it was about helping someone.

[–] KeepFlying@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Im not sure I can be so confident just because the surrogate knows the couple. If anything that would make me more worried about coercion. That could easily add MORE pressure for a surrogate to take on the pregnancy if that surrogate knows how important it is to the couple.

[–] Kalysta@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My coworker had to use a surrogate to have a kid because of her infertility issues. I promise you, there was no coercion. When you regulate things it’s much easier to ensure everyone is consenting. The problems happen when you ban shit and drive it underground.

[–] KeepFlying@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

That's amazing, I'm glad your coworker was able to find someone and get to be a parent.

I'm sorry if I came across as advocating against surrogacy. I don't nearly know enough to have that strong of an opinion on it in either direction. All I wanted to get across was that making sure there's no coercion is hard. Not impossible, but hard. There were some really sweeping statements under this post that felt like they were oversimplifications and I wanted to consider the nuance.

[–] KeepFlying@lemmy.world 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I don't know how I feel about it overall (surrogacy, not gay people getting to have children, that's beautiful), but it's hard to be confident there's no coercion when money is involved. The money itself can be coercive especially if the surrogate is particularly in need of the money. I'm not sure it can always be "clear" it's not coerced.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

In the U.S., where medical care is expensive, I think money to cover that should be expected.

[–] KeepFlying@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago

Absolutely! And more to cover other expenses like maternity clothing, any comfort items to manage the pregnancy, additional dietary needs, and probably some more to help account for how traumatic a pregnancy can be and the body changes it causes.

I'm absolutely not advocating that a surrogate shouldn't get paid. Just that it's hard to separate payment from coercion in even the best situations.

[–] metaStatic@kbin.social 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

plenty of unwanted people out there to adopt, no need to make more

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Do you know how hard it is for a gay couple to adopt in the U.S.?

[–] KeepFlying@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago

Separate from any discussion about surrogacy, that's fucked and our adoption system should be way more accepting of gay couples than it is. There's no reason it should be so hard.

[–] Uranium3006@kbin.social 5 points 7 months ago

Espically since religious groups run the show to facilitate a sort of human trafficking

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

LBGT

Lesbian, Bay, Guysexual, Trans

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Believe it or not, the letters can go in any order.

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Not appreciating utterly hilarious 'guysexul' pun and going "well ackchully" instead